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fandomsecrets2008-02-28 06:05 am
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[ SECRET POST #419 ]
? Secret Post #419 ?
Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.
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Notes:
Secrets Left to Post: 04 pages, 083 secrets from Secret Submission Post #060.
Secrets Not Posted: 0 broken links, [ 1 2 ] not!secrets, 0 not!fandom, [ 1 2 ] too big, [ 1 ] repeat, [ 1 ] PSA, [ 1 ] etc, [ 1 ] posted twice.
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.
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First off, OP, I'm really sorry about what happened to you. It goes without saying that rape is a life-changing trauma that is nigh impossible to understand to those who haven't suffered it, and no one deserves it. However, I think you're misdirecting your anger at the experience towards something completely innocuous. It's difficult not to become totally emotional about the subject, but you do get a choice to read fanfiction or not, and every noncon / dubcon / etc. type fic I've seen has been clearly labeled with a warning. No one is doing any real raping on the internet, because it's just words. You are not a prisoner of those words. However, I think you're channeling your anger at the powerlessness over your rape towards your powerless to change the way others think and write. There are ways to deal with that anger, some healthier than others. It's your journey to find out how you cope, but I hope you won't spend too much of your energy on anger towards the internet. It probably won't help you address the issues at the heart of the anger.
That being said, a majority of the people I know who are into it, write it, enjoy it have been sexually abused in some way. I'm not saying that's a majority of the fans, it's just my personal experience. So how would you say "we should experience it?" What if we already had? Sexual abuse does funny things to a person's sexuality, and I think that a lot of people play through it because that way they can experience that loss of control, but actually still be in control of the scenario. They want to rewrite history, so to speak. Maybe it is sick, I can acknowledge that it's certainly taboo, and certainly not something I would wish on anyone IRL. However, the internet's always been a long-term home of people getting those demons out. It may not be pretty. It may not be erotic. It may be shameful and it may be disgusting, but in the end, I don't think it hurts anyone. If it does, it's no one outside the viewers and the writers of those story, and you're not obligated to be either.
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(Anonymous) 2008-02-29 02:27 am (UTC)(link)Re: 25
It just makes me so angry when people judge others they've never met on their sexual kinks. There's a TON of non-con, rapefic and dub-con out there. Does the OP REALLY think that NONE of all of the writers was a sexual abuse victim? Wtf?
It's not a pre-requisite or the only valid reason to find rapefic appealing, either. People shouldn't have to justify what appeals to them when it's fiction.
Anyway, thank you for your more coherent and calm thoughts on this.