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fandomsecrets2016-01-13 06:37 pm
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[ SECRET POST #3297 ]
⌈ Secret Post #3297 ⌋
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Hi, your friendly neighborhood Ace here
(Anonymous) 2016-01-14 01:11 am (UTC)(link)For some, they have no sex drive, no interest in masturbation, they don't experience sexual attraction... but they may or may not be perfectly content to have sex with a trusted partner if they are not repulsed!
Some asexuals have a sex drive, in that they experience physical arousal and enjoy orgasms just fine, but they don't feel sexual attraction and may be actively repulsed by the idea of sex with another person, preferring their own hand (or toy).
Some people on the spectrum experience sexual attraction, in that they can look at someone and consider them sexy rather than merely aesthetically attractive (like a painting or a statue or whatever). They may even enjoy a little 'visual stimulation' from time to time, but have no desire to actually have sex with the people they consider attractive, and even find the idea of doing so disgusting/distressing. It's all good when it's all mental, but it's only that.
Some aces enjoy sex with a trusted partner because of the closeness and the chemical brain stuff afterwards, and because they know they're providing said partner with something that's important to them, but they never feel like initiating sex, or think about it when it's not happening-- to them it's no different from engaging in another hobby that their partner cares about in order to strengthen their relationship.
... and some sexual people are insulted by the idea that they can't be happy without sex in the relationship, and enjoy relationships with sex-repulsed partners, either by masturbating to take care of themselves and enjoying other forms of non-sexual physical intimacy, or sometimes by the use of an agreed-upon sexual proxy, though there are couples where sex just isn't part of things for either party.
After all, there are sexual people who, due to physical sexual dysfunction, have to rely upon fantasy and other forms of intimacy anyway. There are also older people who, however much they might appreciate the part sex once played in their life, find that they don't feel the need to pop pills in order to keep on swinging, I mean... for some people, sex is great but not vital, and some people who couldn't imagine going without sex at twenty find they're happy without it at sixty.
It really depends on the two people involved.
(not meant as a personal rebuttal! I just thought this was the most convenient place to reply)
Re: Hi, your friendly neighborhood Ace here
(Anonymous) 2016-01-14 01:48 am (UTC)(link)Re: Hi, your friendly neighborhood Ace here
(Anonymous) 2016-01-14 11:55 am (UTC)(link)