[ SECRET POST #3300 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3300 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 04 pages, 076 secrets from Secret Submission Post #472.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

Re: Non-fandom secrets

[(Anonymous)]

Never mind fair, it's kind of silly to be jealous about friends when you can surely make friends of your own.

Re: Non-fandom secrets

[(Anonymous)]

Well I've been failing at it for a few years now so "surely" might be a little optimistic

Re: Non-fandom secrets

[(Anonymous)]

It might be, but honestly? Every single time I see someone saying they can't make friends, it's usually a few things:

* not trying very hard, i.e. not leaving the house, not talking to people or pursuing new hobbies, activities, exercise, meetup.com, etc.

* accidentally alienating other people with their behavior - admittedly a tough one, because you may not even be aware of what you're doing that's putting people off. Personal hygiene all right? Not giving off weird or needy vibes? You know how to engage in friendly conversation? Not hitting people with "edgy" humor too soon, or sharing TMI? Stuff like that.

* not being a good friend - meeting people and starting a new friendship is one thing, but keeping it is another. This is related to the accidental alienation issue, though. I have done the slow fade from friends I liked, because they were being rather selfish and it was exhausting to deal with their needs when they had no consideration for mine. There was no reciprocity. That gets old fast, no matter how funny, smart or talented a friend is.

* not being patient enough

You've had friends in the past, so you know it's not impossible to do. But sometimes these things get harder as we get older and aren't thrown together with other people at school on a daily basis. You really have to put some effort into it, and a lot of people simply aren't used to that idea, so they give up easily.