[ SECRET POST #3314 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3314 ⌋

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Can I offer a suggestion?

[chardmonster]

Buckley's not a bad name, but... you might want to steer away from overtly unconventional or trendy names. Sometimes it looks a little too contrived, or there's a risk of making the kid look twee when he isn't at all.

Names are important, right? They make an impression. And there are so many names that already look dated! I think another ten years into teaching I'm going to be able to say "yep! Last names as first names trend!" And then a few years after that will be "everyone is named Ella." It's like that period where like one of every ten girls was named Madison because everyone liked Splash. The current trend is making absolutely sure nobody has a name like your kid.

I really like Buck as a nickname, but maybe it's better as a middle name? Or give him a funny first name but a middle name he could use instead if he ever wants? Judgey people suck, but he's going to be encountering them constantly.

Edit: I do think it's a little contrived to be planning nicknames before the kid even has a personality to generate a nickname. "Buck" is more like a real nickname than a normal shortening of a longer name, isn't it?

Re: Can I offer a suggestion?

[chardmonster]

Oh man--yeah I understand that. Maybe it'll help to hear worse problems?

One of my best friends from college just had a baby. The husband is a militant atheist and INSISTED that the baby not be named anything with any possible Christian connotations. This means nothing that appeared in the Bible. This means nothing that was ever used for a saint. That means no names for which a VARIATION was used as a saint. This despite his name appearing in the Bible. Would not approve anything.

He ruled out every conventional western name.

The kid is adorable and has been given a weird name.

Re: Can I offer a suggestion?

[slashgirl]

It can be done--my first name is Stacy. My mother absolutely hates the nickname Stace. If anyone called me that, she shut them down. And I'm not fussy on it myself and pretty much asked people not to call me that. But somewhere in my late 20s, I finally gave up--now, unless someone does it to excess, I don't say anything. However, no one in my family calls me Stace nor do my close friends.

Re: Can I offer a suggestion?

[(Anonymous)]

Heh. My sister did the same thing, said she didn't want any name that appeared in the Bible. Her first choice was Ethan (which is in the Bible). I'm not sure what her eventual decision making process looked like, but her son's name is Joshua.

Joshua Theodore.

So much for no religious overtones.

Re: Can I offer a suggestion?

[slashgirl]

I'll tell you what several of my teacher co-workers who have had kids have told me: whatever name you pick for your child--even if it initially reminds you of a problem child that you worked with? It soon becomes YOUR child's name, and while you may not forget the association with that student, it does fade. (Of course, your OCD might not let that work....)

I know I gave negative feedback on both names, but my feeling is this: if you love the name and it's not totally whack-a-doodle, then use it. And by whack-a-doodle I mean this: I know someone who named their son "Letcher"--and even when told that the word "lecher" meant dirty old man, they said "But it's spelled differently". And the reason they named the child that? They liked the name Fletcher, but wanted it to start with L cus that's what the mother's name started with...and no, they weren't teenagers.

If you know any of your family history (on either side) are there any names that might be useful--either given names or surnames? Or taking a common name and finding it in another language that wouldn't be totally outlandish and/or clash with your surname.

And tbh, it doesn't really matter if your family doesn't like it--if you use the name, they'll more than likely grow to like it because it's your kid's name. I mean, my maternal grandmother didn't like my name (Stacy) when mum named me--although later on, she swore that she'd always liked it.