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fandomsecrets2016-01-31 03:36 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2016-01-31 03:36 pm
[ SECRET POST #3315 ]
⌈ Secret Post #3315 ⌋
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Re: Sad anon looking for guidance. Trigger warning for suicide/depression I think.
I went to law school. It was possibly the most miserable experience of my life, but I forced my way through it. When I got out, the economy had crashed (hello, 2009), and I couldn't even get a job prosecuting tickets at night court. And I had thousands of dollars in loans which I am *still* paying off. It was awful. We were all miserable. Many of my classmates had to go on medication for anxiety and/or depression. I wouldn't wish law school on my worst enemy and am a crusader against the explosion of law schools going on in the US (despite the lack of a similar growth in the job market). People say you "can do anything with a law degree", which is BULLSHIT. People see a law degree and say, "Then why aren't you working/applying for a job as a lawyer?" They don't accept that you spent $90k on something that you don't want to do. If you quit now, they'll ask about it, but you just say "it wasn't for me" or "the financial aspect proved too difficult to maintain", and they'll move on.
Meanwhile, many of my early classmates quit after the first semester or year. They were and are SO much happier for it. They found jobs. They found careers. They had much easier times paying off $20k than the $60-90k the rest of us had. The typical person changes *careers* (not just jobs) something "crazy" like 5 times in their lifetime. Lawyers drag that average down, because they get stuck. In my mind, they are the ones to be pitied, while the rest of us can imagine something else for our lives.
Cut your losses now and quit. It's not going to get better after law school. Instead of professors, it'll be law firm partners breathing down your neck, yelling about billable hours, and wanting the brief they assigned at 4pm on a Monday afternoon to be done by the 8am deadline on Tuesday. I know people who had to put cots in their office for the first few years of law firm life. If you hate law school, you will loathe law firms.
I'm not meaning to give you the tough love type of speech, but the thing is that you know exactly what you have to do - quit and find something else. It's scary. Terrifying. But that's ok and it's totally normal to be scared. It will get better, because you will be happier. You are not a failure, nor should your family consider you to be one. Since when does hating something and not wanting to do it make you a failure? It makes you capable of knowing your own mind and your own wishes. That's strength. That's independence and self-awareness. Anyone who tells you different is either a jackass or is scared of change themselves. It takes incredible bravery to imagine something different for yourself, so do it. I know you can.
I do think you need more help than internet anons can provide. As I said, I was just addressing the law school thing, but you probably need counseling and/or medication. Please call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline - 1(800)273-8255 - or go to your campus counseling office. They can provide resources for you, which you need to check out. You're obviously very intelligent if you can hold down a job and make tops marks in law school. As trite as it sounds, the world is better with you in it.
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(Anonymous) 2016-02-01 03:54 am (UTC)(link)