[ SECRET POST #3332 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3332 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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(David Bowie)


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(Great British Bake Off for Sports Relief, Ed Balls)


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[Pokemon]


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[Star Wars: TFA]


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[Damian Lewis, Dick Winters, Band Of Brothers]


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[Daughter of the Lilies]


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[David Eddings]


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[Sengoku Basara]


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[JJBA]


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[Men In Black I, II, III]
















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Comments

Re: Rant/vent thread

[herpymcderp]

Well, I see and understand both sides of the picture. Midwives benefit from publicizing the happiest, most natural, most "beautiful" picture of birth that they can because it increases patronage and increases the chances of that actually being their client's experience. Physicians are limited professionally because angry patients are not complicit patients, and the very last thing you want to do is to have an expectant mother who doesn't trust your judgement.

I really think the best thing to do would be to treat birth like any other huge, traumatic surgical procedure and have before and after psychological consultations. Let a psychiatrist be the one to educate about hard truths if a patient is experiencing them or even if they might experience them.

But then I've also said for years that all physicians should have mandatory psych training and only now is that starting to become a partial reality. ...At least it's starting to change?

Also, fuck the Mommy cult. It's so toxic that I and the SO don't have kids and we've already decided not to be friends with parents if we ever do. Present company excluded, of course. :)

Re: Rant/vent thread

[a_potato]

Oh man, I somehow missed this.

You make a good point about the limitations placed on and faced by professionals. And I think you're spot-on re: psychological consultations. I consider myself lucky in that both the practice I go to and the practice I take my son to actively monitor for PPD, but more could definitely be done.

There's got to be a change in the wider culture, in how we approach the entire process as a whole. I have a good friend who gave birth 4 months before me and, despite our closeness and despite the fact that she normally has a low tolerance for bullshit, she edited the nature of her experience. And she didn't even realize she was doing it until after the fact! There's a narrative, and it's strong as hell, and we all feel compelled to perpetuate it.

As for the rest, man, I don't blame you. The only friends I have who are parents are either those whom I knew before they had kids, or those whom you don't know are parents until someone asks.