[ F!S Anon Meme (the ??th!) ]

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F!S Anon Meme (the ??th!)

Secrets, rants, opinions, anything you want to say about your fandom or a fandom or fandom in general, do it here! Anonymously, of course. Get it all off your chest.

Some ground rules:
1. Going anon is encouraged but not absolutely required (for those who struggle with captchas and stuff).
2. No autoplaying/autolooping embeds, or embeds that cover/stretch the screen.
3. No dropping personal info or IRL contact info, etc.

That's about it, though!

I'll be linking some general/general-fandom threads I see so people don't repost new threads with the same stuff. If you want me to link your thread up here, drop a link in the first comment!

List of threads:

Favorite FSers
Your diehard fandoms
NSFW confession thread
Topics you wish FS would stop wanking about
What do you want FS to talk about more?
(Pan)fandom discussion post
General opinions
Fapping material?
Random rants

Comments

How do I

[(Anonymous)]

Talk less IRL? It is a real problem, I think it is nerves or impatience, but I talk over people. It's rude as fuck. Sometimes I catch myself and stop. Othertimes I catch myself and keep on doing it, to my growing horror.

I'm very embarrassed and upset, my manager brought it up recently...in association with the words "progression or promotion". So I got to get a handle on this and be more respectful but I'm not sure how to remember this and practice listening?

Re: How do I

[(Anonymous)]

You might have good luck googling "How do I talk less and listen more?" There's sound practical advice out there.

Re: How do I

[(Anonymous)]

I think you need to figure out the root of the problem first. I don't know what it is, but... I have a friend who does it, and my impression is that she's actually trying to contribute, but doesn't realize she's actually manipulating the conversation. So what you might do is remember that you don't have to say anything. You can smile and nod. If there's something you have to say that's related to the conversation, wait until it's your turn.

Not sure how to resolve nerves or impatience, but as the other anon said, there probably are articles. :/ Wish I knew what to tell you about that.

Re: How do I

[(Anonymous)]

Where does it come from, do you know? Often people talk excessively due to nervousness and wanting to fill empty conversational space. It sounds corny, but I'd ask a friend to practice with you, someone who's aware of your problem and who will agree to alert you when you start talking over people.

Learn to ask questions and then listen attentively, limiting your contributions to really short encouraging responses. "Oh?" "What happened then?" "What did that feel like?" "Go on." etc. etc.