[ SECRET POST #3340 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3340 ⌋

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[Xena: Warrior Princess]


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[What's My Line?]


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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

To be honest, I'm reading some of these comments speculating way too deeply about this woman's "development" and how she will "feel about all this in a couple of years" and am finding them waaaaay creepier than this relationship.

[(Anonymous)]

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People are allowed opinions? And there's science about brain development, so I'm not sure I get why it's creepy to think about it.

I mean, aside from discussing other people's relationships in general can be a creepy thing.

[(Anonymous)]

To think about in general terms, yes, but to discuss it specifically in relation to a real person in this way strikes me as infantilizing. All I know about this woman is that she's 19 and she's dating a much older man. I haven't heard anything in the way of an opinion from her that can remotely be used as an yardstick for maturity, and somehow I should have an opinion about what her emotional development is going to be like for the next couple of years? And use said opinion as justification for feeling "judgey" over her decision?

[(Anonymous)]

Except research in developing brains has shown that the frontal cortex is not fully developed until someone is in their mid-twenties. Here is a "layman's" version of the research. http://science.howstuffworks.com/life/inside-the-mind/human-brain/teenage-brain.htm It is fact that she is not fully mentally developed yet.

As long as he is aware that her thought processes are different and doesn't take advantage of her, it can be fine, but I don't think it is creepy for people to say that her brain isn't fully developed and she has a lot of growing still to do.

[(Anonymous)]

I think the person in question should get to speak for herself before any expert, self-styled or otherwise, gets to state for a fact that she isn't mature enough for her relationship. Again, I don't question the science or even the merits of having that discussion in an academic context, just the tastefulness of using it as the sole basis to pass moral judgment on an actual person and her actual relationship.

[(Anonymous)]

I agree. People speculate about celebs. It's a thing we do. Nobody here is trying to make opinions out to be facts. Nobody here is blaming or shaming. I think we all realize that there's no hard line on this issue, and that for the most part it's not something to make a big deal about. We're just sharing opinions and perspectives about a topic that's fairly universal.