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I'm sorry, I just can't get on your side for this. Your girlfriend is obviously suffering. She obviously need emotional support from you, that's why she is spending so much time around you, and you just want to hang out with your bros? People are calling her abusive? Saying that you should dump her? She deserves better than you.

A boyfriend is not a 24/7 therapist. Yeah, she is suffering, likely, but it's unrealistic to expect OP to take on 100% of the emotional support.

Where do you get 24/7 from? He said evenings and weekends.

Assuming OP either studies or works full-time,spending evenings and weekends with her amounts to effectively spending ALL free time together and having NO alone time.

So? Work doesn't count as time away from her? Some of you people need to grow the fuck up.

lmao yeah WE'RE the ones who need to grow up when you're saying she has the right to be abusive

It's time away from her. It's not time away from *people*. You seem not to grasp this concept.

Work does not count as relaxing time, and since time spent with this girlfriend probably revolves around her needs and feelings and emotional dependence, couple time does not count as downtime either.

Unless "work" is a magical, magical time that involves personal growth and winding down instead of "that thing you do so you don't end up in the poorhouse" then, no, it doesn't count.

Maybe YOU need to grow up and graduate from fairy tales and soap operas where a lover's world absolutely positively MUST revolve around the other person at all times OR ELSE IT'S NOT TWU WUV.

holy shit.

Are you serious?

Girlfriend just comes over with no warning expecting to stay at someone's place, and when they don't get their way they start screaching "imma kill myself!!"

How is that not abusive? You don't use suicide threats to bully your way into staying at someone's place.

Hey whats up anon, I am a suicidally depressed person in a relationship, and she is definitely being abusive. Someone suffering or being mentally ill does not exclude them from that.

The girlfriend is being an abusive shitbag. Threatening to kill herself if she doesn't get her way. The fuck is wrong with you. Are you trolling for real now?

Wow, WTF. Obviously you're as fucked in the head as she is.

IDK, I'm beginning to think that AYRT is indeed a troll.

Every time someone makes a post about feeling used by some person in their life, and wondering how to taper it off, there's always an anon who makes exactly this kind of reply--wow, you're a selfish shitbag, people are meant to lean on each other. Not sure if they sincerely believe what they're saying or just trying to get a rise out of people.

Maybe both, and I think it's one person. They sound similar to me throughout the thread.

She may need emotional support, but threatening suicide is not the way to get it. This is coming from someone who sees a therapist and is on meds for suicidal ideation.

Actually, I despise people who try and use a condition I deal with every second of my life and legitimately hate to manipulate someone. You don't threaten those you love, even if you are mentally ill.

Some people do need to be in their S.O's pocket every single moment of every single day. But that's not everybody. It's a major thing to have an incompatibility about. If OP needs alone time, GF is not the right one for him/her and vice versa.

Nah, what she needs is a fucking therapist, preferably one who will help her learn how not to be an emotionally manipulative asshole. She definitely doesn't need to have her abusive behavior rewarded by getting her way.

Right? OP wants one whole weekend to themselves, what a monster. OP is obligated to try and bolster all the gf's insecurities, no matter how irrational or unhealthy they might be. Otherwise OP is surely no better than Hitler!

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