[ SECRET POST #3357 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3357 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT

I do understand that if OP is young (and this isn't knocking them if they are) that you get a LOT of flack and comments from every tom, dick, and harry about not being in a relationship and that can honestly chip away at you if you let it.

I was lucky that my parents never ever joined that, "Well WHY aren't you in a relationship?? YOU'RE JUST NOT TRYING!" thing that a lot of people around you do tend to comment, just because we do seem to be wired/influenced by culture and media that relationships are either romantic or not at all.

This is why I think OP should talk to someone if they're feeling broken or wrong about being aro/ace, because not wanting a romantic relationship should NEVER make you feel that way.

[dinogrrl]

*nods* Exactly.
And unfortunately, it's not just young people who get it. Especially if you're female, you're probably going to be getting those comments throughout your life (I'm almost 30 and still get them from time to time). :/ sooo yeah, the younger you can make the tools to build yourself up and deal with the things that brought you down to begin with, the better.

(I'm not aromantic, but I'm asexual/childfree. My tool for dealing with jerks was mostly being completely mind-boggled at the suggestion that I should be unhappy or that I wasn't 'truly happy', like wtf I am really happy right now, why should I consciously trade that in for unhappiness where is the logic in that????)

[(Anonymous)]

*high fives~* 32 and ace/childfree. I still get some of those comments from co-workers (especially new ones), but I'm happy with who I am, with friends and family, why on earth would you feel 'bad for me' because I'm not living the life you have?

[dinogrrl]

My excuse is always "I have a hard enough time taking care of myself, why would I want to add another person's problems into that?" :p
But I mean seriously, if my life was making me so unhappy, I'd say so. But I'm not, so I don't. Stop trying to harsh my squee, man.