[ SECRET POST #3357 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3357 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Friend Dumping

[diet_poison]

I'm of the belief that unless someone is outright abusive it's the right thing to do to tell them why you're ending things. You can say once "I think this is hurtful because reasons", and if they say they'll improve, see if they do; if they don't, say you're ending it and end it. If they try to turn it back on you, well, at least you tried. You don't owe them 2994098 explanations, but it's nice to give them one.

However, I feel a lot more strongly about this wrt romantic relationships than platonic ones, especially because friends often drift apart without it being intentional (by either person).

I did have one friend who I just stopped talking to, but I had already tried to hash it out with him before and by that point I was just exhausted and upset. He rarely contacted me at that point anyway though so I don't think he was that invested anyway. I don't even know if I did it consciously - it was kind of "well he hasn't talked to me in X amount of time, I guess he doesn't want to" and I wasn't really motivated to contact him again so I didn't.

Re: Friend Dumping

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I agree. Sometimes people honestly don't realize how they come across to others - I have one friend who can seem rather harsh at times because she's blunt and outspoken. She's never deliberately mean, but she also doesn't sugarcoat things, and because of that she's had people think she was angry at them when she actually wasn't.