[ SECRET POST #3358 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3358 ⌋

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Comments

[fscom]

02. http://i.imgur.com/Y3oLqEs.jpg

[(Anonymous)]

i keep looking at the picture and laughing sorry op

[(Anonymous)]

No, it's not cheating, jeez.

If someone accused a guy of cheating for just THINKING about sex with someone else, even during actual sex, everyone would laugh at the accuser for being naive and possibly controlling, but females (I assume) think they can cheat on their boyfriends by thinking. Really, don't worry about whether you're cheating or not unless you're actually fucking someone else.

[(Anonymous)]

OP is a gay guy though. I agree with you btw

[(Anonymous)]

This. Jesus Christ, who told you that was a form of cheating?

[blitzwing]

You talking about the one on the right or the one on the left?

I don't think you should feel guilty about wanting something beyond what you have. Real relationships are rarely a 100% perfect matchup, there are usually things we'd change or that we want but have compromised on.

[(Anonymous)]

mental bestiality

[(Anonymous)]

Not cheating. Give yourself a break. Bring up role play as a 'treat' with partner. Who knows what's really going on in the their head that they are unwilling to bring up?

[(Anonymous)]

Gotta agree about bringing it up, unless there's really good reason not to (eg, he's explicitly stated he would never be comfortable with it). You seem to think no one would expect you to want to explore that type of roleplay, but the same might go for your bf. Also, technically, it's not out of character, but another aspect of yourself.

[(Anonymous)]

You're fantasizing about a fictional character from a yaoi manga. HAVE AT IT.

(Viewfinder?)

Maybe read the manga with your BF, see if he also finds it hot. Who knows what might happen!

[dancing_serpent]

Viewfinder, yes.

Thank you OP, it's been a while since I had a reason to use those icons... *g*

[litalex]

I thought the main character is a photo journalist and the guy chasing him is a yazuka? Where does the panther come in?

[dancing_serpent]

Where does the panther come in?

I have no idea. Maybe just something to show how manly and dangerous Asami is. *g*

[(Anonymous)]

OP, please stop punishing yourself for imagined thought crimes. I assume the vast majority of sexually active people have fantasies during sex.

[(Anonymous)]

Should I go to prison for fantasising about murdering my boss? Even if I touch myself while doing it? Only if I go through it in real life.

[(Anonymous)]

Even if you don't think your bf will go for it, can it hurt to ask? Just put domination out there as a thing to try and see if you both like or not.

Let up on the guilt, its okay to fantasize during sex.

[(Anonymous)]

Aw, OP, don't even worry about it because fantasizing during sex is not cheating. Lots of people fantasize during sex.

[(Anonymous)]

Is this Viewfinder?

because not gonna lie, that seme is all of my sexual fantasies too.

[dancing_serpent]

Yep, looks like Viewfinder to me. And Asami is hot. *g*

[dahli]

Nah, you're not cheating OP. He's fictional, he's hot and as long as it's not hurting your relationship and it's kept within the realm of fantasy then I don't see a problem with it. Also you've said it yourself, that you secretly have a thing for being dominated. Nothing wrong with that.

[(Anonymous)]

Fantasizing during sex is normal. Odds are your boyfriend's doing the exact same thing. It's just unless you're both cool with it and know the other wants to know it's generally considered polite not to tell them about it.

It's also entirely possible you have a fantasy that you like in fiction but not in reality. Lots of people like both personality types and sex acts in fiction that they don't in reality. I don't like being penetrated at all, but that doesn't mean I can't fantasize about getting fucked into the mattress.

[(Anonymous)]

Okay, so, I've done something like this, too. I was having problems with desire and arousal at one point and it was hurting my sex life with my SO (and it really wasn't his fault. I was still attracted to him and wanted to want sex, but something just wasn't clicking). But the thought of my OTP would get me all hot and bothered. So...I started imagining I was the female half and my SO was the male half while having sex. The sex was great, and my drive came back. Now, I don't have to imagine anyone or anything else. I just want sex because I want it, and I think about my SO the whole time I'm in bed with him.

Imagining my OTP was a way to kickstart things for me, basically.

Point is, I don't think there's anything wrong with you imagining a fictional character if it's helping your sex life, and I don't think it's a form of cheating.

NOW THAT SAID. Eventually, you're gonna have to talk to him about what's missing for you in the bedroom, even if you think he's gonna be put off. Thinking about my OTP worked for me and solved my problem because the problem was all in my head. My SO are sexually compatible, so we're both able to have the kind of sex that we really want, and we're both very satisfied. In your case, as much as you love your SO, not having the sex you want and not being able to talk about it is gonna become a bigger and bigger issue, and there's gonna come a point where fantasizing during sex isn't gonna cut it anymore.

Maybe you're right, and he won't want to do that sort of thing with you at all. But not being able to at least be open with him about it is gonna eat at you. You should be able to communicate with your partner about that kind of stuff and be your full, authentic self with him, even if the only thing he can offer is an ear.

And just so we're clear, wanting something more out of your sex life isn't a betrayal at all! It's okay to have wants and likes and dislikes! It doesn't mean you love or desire your SO any less or that he's done anything wrong.

[(Anonymous)]

This reads like fangirl bs tbh