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⌈ Secret Post #3360 ⌋

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[Niche]

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[Rush Hour 1, 2, 3]

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["The Bride Was A Boy" manga]

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[J.K. Rowling]

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[Pretty Little Liars]

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[Twin Peaks]

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[The Walking Dead/The Flash]

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(GIRLS)

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[The Grinder]

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[Pokemon]

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[Lord of the Rings]

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[Babylon 5, Tolkien, Star Wars, Harry Potter]

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[Star Wars: The Force Awakens]

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[Pete Seeger]

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Putting it in the second comment....

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I was in a pretty horrible relationship with this girl for several years. She used all kinds of manipulation tactics on me, but her favorite was to force me into situations where I had to be the 'bad guy' and then turning it around and accusing me of being abusive or mean or self-centered.

Eventually I got out, a few years ago now. I just woke up one day and realized that I didn't care about her at all, and she was only interested in me because my disabilities and insecurities made me an easy punching bag. So I dropped contact with her and disappeared as much as I could (I knew she'd stalked people in the past and didn't want to take any chances), but after two years it was clear she wasn't coming after me so I de-anoned a bit.

A couple months ago she sent me a very angry message out of the blue about how I'm an abusive monster and a bigot and so on and so forth, very much the usual crap she used to say to me regularly, which she normally would follow up with apologies and 'let's work together to make this right's after a few days. This time I just blocked her and I've been lolling to myself ever since about how blind I used to be.

Good for you nonny. The best thing you can do is keep staying out of contact with her.

It's awfully telling that she sought you out--most abuse victims don't go seeking out contact with their abusers once they've broken free for good. Sounds a lot more like she was trying to manipulate you into feeling guilty so she could keep up the abuse.

^^ This. Most victims of abuse try to get the hell out of dodge and cut off all contact. Not try to actively engage with their abuser.

I think she was definitely aiming for a Round 2. Either that or she was just bored and trying to stir up shit. Like I said, that was her favorite tactic.

We're both disabled, and she'd do things like purposefully deprive me of sleep or throw me off my meds schedule so I'd be really out of it for days or even weeks at a time. She'd wait until weird horrible times (like 3am before an important job interview) to come over and give me the latest sob story about how NO ONE IN THE WORLD understands how hard it is to live with x disability and how y person and z person were super duper mean to her today and btw anon I feel like you just aren't sensitive enough to my needs. Then, if I dared even hint that I wasn't 100% interested and attentive she do a 180 and I'd become the most evil abusive partner ever.

tbh I'm still not entirely sure how much was a deliberate game on her part, or if she just has a huge persecution complex, or some weird combination of both?

she'd do things like purposefully deprive me of sleep or throw me off my meds schedule so I'd be really out of it for days or even weeks at a time

wow, that is some top tier creepy shit. I'm glad you're out of that situation

She sounds pretty awful. Good for you for getting out of the awful situation you were in.

I'm really sick of this narrative and how it keeps cropping up here.

Good for you anon :)

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Finally getting over an abusive ex (TW: minor mentions of abuse)

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Re: Finally getting over an abusive ex (TW: minor mentions of abuse)

Re: Finally getting over an abusive ex (TW: minor mentions of abuse)

Re: Finally getting over an abusive ex (TW: minor mentions of abuse)

Re: Finally getting over an abusive ex (TW: minor mentions of abuse)

Re: Finally getting over an abusive ex (TW: minor mentions of abuse)

Re: Finally getting over an abusive ex (TW: minor mentions of abuse)