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I've got a coworker who retired Tuesday and killed himself Wednesday. When he announced his retirement, I feel like the only one who wasn't surprised, but this does surprise me. I wish I could be mad at him because then it would be easier to work, but I can't be mad, because I understand how depression fucks with your mind and makes you believe you're doing a right thing. So instead I'm just deeply sad.

Ivm mostly doing okay with it until I think about the last real conversation we had, where he gave me some advice for dealing g with a problem at work that basically amounted to letting it go. I kind of feel like that advice spins forward for how he would want us to handle grief, but it still makes me sad and teary.

If you weren't surprised by them killing themselves, then I gotta ask why you didn't step in to try and stop it happening? If you were okay being a bystander then, then you should be pretty chill now.

They were expecting the retirement but surprised by the suicide if you read it correctly.

Even if you'd read that comment correctly (which you have not) this is a shitty thing to ask someone. Please do better with both your reading comprehension skills and your tact.

I reposted your thread because people kept trolling it with suicide encouragement, by the way!

Thanks.

Actually it was one suicide incitement and one suicide advice so if someone tried then they'd do it right and not just maim themselves or leave themselves a vegetable. If someone genuinely wants out then they have a right to be fully informed on how best to do it in a painless manner. I genuinely think it is cruel and malicious of society to ensure that the people most in search of a gentle death have to die in pain and alone, or even suffer worse, because we are too lily-livered to give them the correct information or assistance.

They have google for that. We are not significantly blocking their access to information, no matter how you try to spin it.

There are times and places for things and this is not one of the places where advice on how to suicide is going to be. There are plenty of others.

And where would those other places be, because I don't know them and I just tried google and got bupkis.

I don't believe that.

But I'm locking this thread, as again this is not the place for spreading advice on how to commit suicide and it's completely off topic to OP.

I don't have any advice, just wanted to tell you that it's okay to be sad. My sympathies; situations like that are always hard to deal with. *virtual hug*

I'm so sorry, anon. Sadly, that pattern is dismayingly common: men in particular are often raised to believe that they ARE their career. No longer working means no reason to keep living. I hope you and other people who knew him are getting the resources you need to help, both with the loss and with any similar issues you may be experiencing.

Grief counselors were in today to talk to my department as well as us individually, so that way certainly helpful and good of the company. Thanks.

I'm sorry for your loss, Anon.

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