[ SECRET POST #3372 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3372 ⌋

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Comments

Re: How the fuck do you comfort crying women?

[silverr]

Were all those reactions in one crying session? If not, here is my suggestion:

Step 1: Hug and offer silent comfort.
Step 2: After the sobbing has subsided somewhat, ask, "Do you want to talk about it?"

If they reply "No," return to Step 1.
If they reply "Yes," be prepared to just listen, asking just enough leading questions to draw them out. (This is "Share my Pain" mode.)

Optional Step 3: If at any time the question, "What am I going to do?" is asked, you can take that as a possible invitation to offer some gentle suggestions. (Known as "Problem solving mode.") Do not overwhelm the crier with suggestions; lay down one at a time. If the suggestions aren't being well received, just stop.

Also keep in mind that many people feel embarassed about breaking down. They fear you'll think of them as weak, see them as undesirable, irrational, etc. If it's someone you care about, keep in mind that the best thing you can do in this is be a soft, light blankie for them; non-restrictive, washable comfort.