[ SECRET POST #3386 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3386 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Blended families

[caerbannog]

Never heard that term before. Is it specific to stepchildren/parents?

Would it help to think of the new kid as more of a cousin? It's not like you would be in a position of responsibility over the kid. How does your son feel about it?

Re: Blended families

[(Anonymous)]

Blended families is a term that is most typically seen applied to two people, each with their own kids, who get married, but it sort of applies here. It's very much a step- thing.

My son is about to turn 13 and part of our custody deal was that when he hit puberty he'd live more-time with his dad and with me part-time. So, he's been transitioning to living primarily over there, and even before then he was in that "I don't want to talk my MOM" phase, so I haven't been able to get much more out of him than "Eh. It's cool, I guess."

Re: Blended families

[caerbannog]

Aww that sucks :( But I can see you also don't want to push it - teenagers can overreact.

I guess you could wait it out, or be all "eh it's cool" back at him?

Re: Blended families

[(Anonymous)]

If it helps at all, I was the new baby in this scenario for my family (slightly different situation since the reason my dad remarried/I exist is that his first wife passed away). If he's hitting his teenage years then he'll probably really appreciate the time spent with you since it'll be peace and quiet and not having his stuff gummed on. And hopefully he and the new sibling will really hit it off when they're older. My half-sister is 21 years older than me but we really get along and she's been someone that I can look up to; I can't imagine how weird this would be from your end, but hopefully it'll long-term be an awesome thing for your son.

Re: Blended families

[(Anonymous)]

Thanks, and I hope so. From his perspective, I really hope he just sees Baby as a new family member and not as someone who's stealing away all the Dad attention he was supposed to get when he moved in over there.

From my end it's still just this idea that there's a child that's in my ex's and son's life in a very specific way but I don't really have anything to do with it. It's just weird.