[ SECRET POST #3386 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3386 ⌋

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It's the same reason black people straighten their hair. Which is to say it has absolutely nothing to do with white people whatsoever

Now hold on a minute... I'm not saying that straightening hair is the fault of the average white person, but it has a little to do with white people. Wait, just hear me out- I was the only dark skinned person in my school from kindergarten until seventh grade. While the other girls (I was a girl at the time) were always playing with their hair, brushing it, getting to go swimming, stuff like that, I was the one who had to have her hair constantly tied down. I remember one Halloween going to the school part with my hair not in braids, and it caused... well, a kerfluffle. It was just so unlike what they were used to seeing. If their hair ever did what mine was doing, they'd consider it a mess. See, they had only their own standards to go by, their own yardstick by which to measure the world. See what I'm saying? And growing up in their world, I just sort of learned to measure things by their standard.

And it's not anyone's fault. It just comes with the territory. If a white student grew up around a bunch of black students, the same thing would happen. Nobody's the bad guy. Nobody's purposely oppressing anyone. It's just the way things work out.

[(Anonymous)]

that is a very rational analysis of your own situation and I'm kinda happy that people can still do this, what with all the "I'm a victim" stuff going on on twitter over everything.

From the perspective of a self-analyzing part of a larger white group with one black kid in class I can add this:
there was a black boy in our class (elementary school) who was pretty close with my sister, so I saw him regularly even outside of school. he was the only black kid in the entire school, adopted by a couple who were exactly the same social class as evryone there. So there were no class-issues or foreign-name issues or anything. he was just "the kid who looked different". Of course, kids as we were, we would tease each other about how that kid had a big nose, or that kid had stupid freckles, and he, well, I thought his short-cropped curly hair made his head look like a hamburger. So I called him that. Until one day my mom and his mom talked me out of it because it apparently hurt his feelings. It took me a bit to understand why this was a special thing because everyone was picking on someone about something, and I got teased about stuff more often than not, too, but finally I understood that it's really much harder on someone who already *is* the odd one out to be teased about something that makes them different.
So I guess that day I understood how dynamics of race can pose a problem even when there is no harm intended and no underlying racism actually involved.