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fandomsecrets2016-04-11 05:45 pm
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(Anonymous) 2016-04-11 11:24 pm (UTC)(link)It's the same reason black people straighten their hair.
Which is to say it has absolutely nothing to do with white people whatsoever, it's merely a fashion statement made by proud, empowered people from wonderful cultures.
Unless we're talking about how oppressive these ideals are. Then it's white people's fault.
Don't worry bro I've got it all figured out by now.
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Now hold on a minute... I'm not saying that straightening hair is the fault of the average white person, but it has a little to do with white people. Wait, just hear me out- I was the only dark skinned person in my school from kindergarten until seventh grade. While the other girls (I was a girl at the time) were always playing with their hair, brushing it, getting to go swimming, stuff like that, I was the one who had to have her hair constantly tied down. I remember one Halloween going to the school part with my hair not in braids, and it caused... well, a kerfluffle. It was just so unlike what they were used to seeing. If their hair ever did what mine was doing, they'd consider it a mess. See, they had only their own standards to go by, their own yardstick by which to measure the world. See what I'm saying? And growing up in their world, I just sort of learned to measure things by their standard.
And it's not anyone's fault. It just comes with the territory. If a white student grew up around a bunch of black students, the same thing would happen. Nobody's the bad guy. Nobody's purposely oppressing anyone. It's just the way things work out.
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(Anonymous) 2016-04-12 11:17 am (UTC)(link)From the perspective of a self-analyzing part of a larger white group with one black kid in class I can add this:
there was a black boy in our class (elementary school) who was pretty close with my sister, so I saw him regularly even outside of school. he was the only black kid in the entire school, adopted by a couple who were exactly the same social class as evryone there. So there were no class-issues or foreign-name issues or anything. he was just "the kid who looked different". Of course, kids as we were, we would tease each other about how that kid had a big nose, or that kid had stupid freckles, and he, well, I thought his short-cropped curly hair made his head look like a hamburger. So I called him that. Until one day my mom and his mom talked me out of it because it apparently hurt his feelings. It took me a bit to understand why this was a special thing because everyone was picking on someone about something, and I got teased about stuff more often than not, too, but finally I understood that it's really much harder on someone who already *is* the odd one out to be teased about something that makes them different.
So I guess that day I understood how dynamics of race can pose a problem even when there is no harm intended and no underlying racism actually involved.