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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2016-05-09 06:34 pm

[ SECRET POST #3414 ]


⌈ Secret Post #3414 ⌋

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(frozen comment) Re: +1

(Anonymous) 2016-05-10 02:17 am (UTC)(link)
Dominance and submission have zero to do with penetration.

But it kind of does? To the unenlightened at least. Lord knows I've seen plenty of misogynists use "women can only get penetrated so that's why they're weak and inferior" rhetoric. Also the fact that women have to pee sitting down, I've legit seen that used as an example of weakness.

As a female virgin, stuff like this has really messed up my views of sex. It makes me quite sick to the stomach that so many see penetration as inherently weak or that the person being penetrated is lesser/not worthy of respect. I can't bear being seen that way.

(frozen comment) Re: +1

(Anonymous) 2016-05-10 02:59 am (UTC)(link)
I would say to the unenlightened is the part you need to be aware of here. There's nothing inherently submissive about being penetrated, it's all part of the social bullshit we've built up about women. Think about it logically, why is being penetrated weak or submissive? It's a body part, just like any other. The penis doesn't have magic dominating powers. True dominance and submission is about body language, about control, taking it or giving it up. Plenty of dominance and submission play doesn't ever involve penetrative sex of any kind.

I'm sorry to hear you've been affected by all this. I'd say stuff like this is a symptom of our misogynistic, homophobic society and it's not any reflection on an individual and how they wish to seek pleasure. If being penetrated gets you off? You're not weak or submissive for that. And if you don't want to do those things, that's totally fine too.

(Also, re: peeing sitting down, toilets are a modern invention and plenty of places in the world people still stand spread eagle over a hole in the ground and piss into it regardless of gender. How somebody goes to the bathroom is about the most ridiculous thing ever. One stupid comment deserves another though, I'm assuming it was a cis man that said that, tell him every time he shits he's being weak and unmanly because he's allowing a penis-sized shape of crap to be inside his body.)