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(Anonymous) 2016-05-10 04:05 am (UTC)(link)no subject
You can basically compare kinks to sexual orientation in that they're (generally) not something someone consciously chooses. Most people don't even remember where their kinks come from because they stem from experiences in very early childhood.
Sexual behaviour, on the other hand, is completely different from preferences and kinks. Someone could theoretically have a kink that they don't even realize because they've been told all their lives that kinks are wrong, disgusting, and deviant. Or... people might adopt certain sexual behaviours because believe that they'll go to hell if they ever have sex outside of marriage/procreation with the wrong person or in the wrong context.
In largely the same way as a person whose real orientation is homosexual adopting heterosexual behaviour due to social pressure, a person with kinks can also adopt a vanilla relationship due to pressure. The kink or preference itself is not determined by society, but the behaviour in relation to the kink/preference is. Just because some behaviours are more acceptable and encouraged doesn't mean that society really has much at all to do with what turns people on. If it did, bestiality and non-consensual sex kinks would be a lot less prevalent, as would other "unacceptable" kinks.
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(Anonymous) 2016-05-10 11:59 am (UTC)(link)But culturally, when 9/10 of the narratives young, pre-pubescent girls are seeing in media is men grabbing women in rough kisses, or saving them, or otherwise being in the dominant position over them, more women are going to grow up with those kinks. You used examples of media exposure accidentally triggering a kink, right? Now if a majority of girls are being exposed to only one type of relationship, it's unsurprising they all "coincidentally" develop a kink for being dominated.
Have you ever read the articles about quicksand kink? How many adventure shows during the 70s featured women stuck in quicksand, therefore there's an unusual amount of adult men with kinks for restricted movement/quicksand because they were pre-pubescent or pubescent when those shows and movies were airing? Well the majority of girls grow up seeing dominant men and submissive women, and it's not difficult to put two and two together.