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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2016-05-10 06:22 pm

[ SECRET POST #3415 ]


⌈ Secret Post #3415 ⌋

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Re: Does anyone else have a mother this overprotective/crazy?

(Anonymous) 2016-05-11 04:53 am (UTC)(link)
Being 30 years old doesn't mean being 100% safe all the time and we don't really know the whole context (does op live in a safe neighborhood? had they any recent issue that could make someone else worry for them? etc.), so it's just as possible for their mother to have a reason to worry even if she worries too much.

Re: Does anyone else have a mother this overprotective/crazy?

(Anonymous) 2016-05-11 11:15 am (UTC)(link)
Even if OP lived in a crazy dangerous neighborhood and had a bunch of health issues, multiple check-ins a day is excessive. If everything is so damn fragile that OP physically needs to live in a bubble, she might as well just live with her damn mother in a special facility with rainbows and non-cancer-causing sunshine, don't you think?

It's fine for the mother to have worries, and your kid potentially being dead is always going to be a valid concern no matter what you're going through. But no situation and no amount of worrying is a free pass to overreact and stunt your adult child's independence. Mom needs to get a fucking grip.
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Re: Does anyone else have a mother this overprotective/crazy?

[personal profile] diet_poison 2016-05-11 02:35 pm (UTC)(link)
It's one thing to worry, another to require that your adult child tell you every time they walk in the house. Frankly that is ridiculous.

I'd also posit that she's probably worrying too much in a way that is unhealthy for her. At some point you have to let your children grow and realize they are their own people and you can't worry about them all the time.

Re: Does anyone else have a mother this overprotective/crazy?

(Anonymous) 2016-05-12 05:30 am (UTC)(link)
It's true--nobody can be "100% safe all the time." And most people understand and accept that their loved ones aren't 100% safe all the time, and we learn to tolerate the uncertainty. OP's mom refuses to do this, and instead demands to be constantly reassured. That's not caring, TBH. That's wanting other people to carry you emotionally.