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sure it can be an identity if you choose to revolve your life around something so insignificant that no one would care about nor would ever be considered abnormal if you didn't make a big fuss over it

but absolutely anything can be an identity if you revolve your life around it and demand that others give you attention for it

You don't think feeling sexual attraction is an important factor in forming long-term romantic relationships that aren't nonsexual? Because I'm not asexual. I want sex and romance in my life, but I want it to be with somebody I'm sexually attracted to. Which literally CANNOT HAPPEN FOR ME until I've formed an emotional attachment.

Just go out and try forming new relationships like that and tell me how successful you are. Or how afraid you are of asshole men who didn't seem like assholes until they start accusing you of being a cocktease. Or tell me how nice it feels when you suddenly start to get tingly feelings for someone you've been friends with for a while and how heartbreaking it can be to watch them find the happiness you want with other people.

Do all that and tell me how being demi doesn't matter.

*Applause* Anyone who says there's nothing different from the norm about being demisexual is either incredibly naive to how mainstream society actually works or is being deliberately obtuse.

lol I don't know sounds like the same issues lots of women have who choose to wait until marriage or otherwise don't have sex by the third date - i.e. lots if not most women worldwide.

sorry you don't want to instantly bang people such struggle all of us non-demisexual people are always having instant sex and never feel uncomfortable doing it with people we don't take the time to know and develop feelings for

Sounds like you just don't like dealing with being friendzoned.

Or how afraid you are of asshole men who didn't seem like assholes until they start accusing you of being a cocktease.

this is the result of misogyny, not a uniquely "demisexual" experience.

Or tell me how nice it feels when you suddenly start to get tingly feelings for someone you've been friends with for a while and how heartbreaking it can be to watch them find the happiness you want with other people.

literally everyone with an unrequited crush has felt this

get over yourself

DA

this is the result of misogyny, not a uniquely "demisexual" experience.

OH. My GOD. It can be both. HOW is this so hard for you to grasp?

nayrt but what in the world? Male entitlement to sex over women who don't "give in" right away has nothing to do with demisexuality, because all women have the right to choose when or when not to have sex.

there is no oppression of demisexual people

Demisexual people can get heartburn, same as everyone else. Doesn't make heartburn a demisexual issue, because the underlying causes have nothing to do with demisexuality.

I'm not demi, but the kind of ace I am comes with its own particular complications, and I totally, totally feel you on this, and agree with what you're saying.

*commiserates*
*offers hugs*
*offers wine coolers and comfort TV*

I hate to be the one to break it to you, but in the olden days, before the norm became it was mandatory to bang on your first date, that's pretty much how everyone rolled.

Some people even *gasp* waited until they were married.

Demisexual is a backlash to contemporary fating practice, but it isn't a sexuality.

Okay, so when was the last time you were given a death threat for being demi?

The last time you were arrested for being demi?

The last time you were beaten for being demi?

The last time you were sent to a "conversion camp" for being demi?

THAT is why people get a little upset about the demisexuality label. It's not rare or potentially life-threatening. Historically, it was the norm. Unlike homosexuality et al.

I'm sorry people are being assholes to you. I don't know why so many people are so hyper defensive they think saying you're not sexually attracted to people easily is equal to accusing ~~them~~ everyone else of banging everything in sight.

because the definition of their sexuality, unlike every other major sexuality out there (hetero/homo/bi/etc) hinges on the amount of sex they're having and with whom. it's the disney princess sexuality.

You keep saying this and ignoring ALL THE POSTS that say it's now about amount of sex, it's about FEELING THE SEXUAL ATTRACTION.

SA: *not about

yes, you're a perfect disney princess

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