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⌈ Secret Post #3422 ⌋

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Comments

Re: controversial opinions thread

[(Anonymous)]

one of the stupidest things I've ever read is a tumblr post from an asexual person saying they "knew they were asexual since [they were] 3 years old"

Re: controversial opinions thread

[(Anonymous)]

I don't know about 3 years old, but looking back, as a kid (I'm not sure exactly the age, definitely older than 3 though) I knew I was different in a way that I now recognize as being asexual/aromantic. When I was young and all my friends would be running around having "weddings" on the playground and pretending their dolls were their babies...even back then I knew I wanted no part of any of that. And when I learned what sex was, I knew it was something I didn't want to do. I know all kids think sex is gross, but I never changed my mind. I became a teenager, had sex several times, still thought it was gross, became an adult, still felt the same way, and eventually realized I was asexual.

So while 3 is definitely young to know you're ANYTHING as far as sexuality goes (though there is a family friend who everyone claims they knew was gay when he was 3), I don't think it's out of the realm of possibility to realize you're what you'll later recognize as asexual as a kid (since it's not well known enough for most kids to have any idea what it is, they'll probably just feel like they're weird and different).

Re: controversial opinions thread

[(Anonymous)]

This comment is pretty on the mark.

I think part of the problem is definitely in how people choose to articulate things. Some people, looking back, recognize they felt different in a particular way from a young age, and instead of saying that they felt different and eventually realized they were [x], they say they knew they were [X] from that age. I don't think they mean to lie or even to exaggerate, I think it's a distinction some people's minds just don't make.

Personally, I started feeling different around the age of eight. Most of the girls in my class had "crushes" and put up posters of Johnathan Taylor Thomas in their lockers and got all excited about Valentines Day. And I remember having this deep sense of confusion about whether they were all faking it and just playing along with each other, or whether they were actually feeling something. And then I wondered if I was feeling it too and I just wasn't responding to it right, and so I then I started trying to figure out if I was actually feeling something I...wasn't feeling.

But I sure as hell didn't know I was asexual until a lot later than that. I think I heard the term at about 15 and thought, "Huh. Yeah. That describes me. I guess that's me."

Re: controversial opinions thread

[(Anonymous)]

sigh, being a young boy who crushes on other boys at a young age is recognizable

being THREE and thinking it's unique that you didn't feel sexual attraction is creepy and fucked up, what the hell do you think other three year olds are thinking?! asexuals can't successfully ape many aspects of thr gay experience as their own narrative, it just doesn't work. this is one of those things.

Re: controversial opinions thread

[(Anonymous)]

ayrt

being THREE and thinking it's unique that you didn't feel sexual attraction is creepy and fucked up, what the hell do you think other three year olds are thinking?! asexuals can't successfully ape many aspects of thr gay experience as their own narrative, it just doesn't work. this is one of those things.

I agree that three is too young to know anything. (I don't even think a three year old could know they're gay, I was just talking about other people claiming to know he was gay, but that was more based on him being "girly" and most people back then thinking feminine=gay than him having crushes on boys, and it's actually not even relevant in this discussion so in hindsight I probably shouldn't have even mentioned it at all.) Anyway.

I do think it's possible to be I don't know what age...5-7? and realize that you're what you will later recognize as asexual (or, I guess, technically, aromantic, since I'm not talking about sex). If all the kids around you are having crushes on classmates and you don't, there's a chance you'll feel different, and once you later learn the word asexual/aromantic you'll realize you felt that way even at 6, or whatever. I mean, depending on where you grow up (although it seems less likely these days) it might go the same way if you're gay...you realize you have same sex crushes as a young child but you might not be familiar with the word gay, but once you find out what it means, you realize you are. (I say it's less likely because I feel like even younger kids know what gay means nowadays.)

And what I'm talking about is not sexual attraction, because kids in kindergarten or first or second grade don't feel sexual attraction, but they can still have non-sexual, "romantic" (at least as romantic as they can be at that age) crushes on other kids. And kids can NOT have those crushes, too. And of course, it doesn't always mean they're asexual because plenty of people are just "late bloomers" or whatever. But they can also not have any crushes as a kid, realize they're asexual when they're older, and in hindsight realize they were different all the way back then.

It's late and I should be in bed, so I don't know if this is even making any sense.