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⌈ Secret Post #3429 ⌋

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[(Anonymous)]

Disclaimer: I am a very selfish person. I also have a very spotty memory, so I may be mis-remembering things or misinterpreting things.

Since I have ADHD, my doctor told me that I can't eat wheat, dairy, red meat or sugar, although he apparently said I could eat multigrain bread? I don't remember being told that, by the other doctor and the nurse that was there say that he told me that. I'm not really working right now, and my mom passed away a year ago, so a bunch of her friends have gotten together and have been helping to pay for my medication and things like that.

One of mommy's friends has this habit I don't like of saying that people have told her something about me, but she won't tell me who it was, and she won't tell me what was said, because she says that I will get upset or confront them. I hate when she does this.

I've been eating whole wheat dumplings filled with cheese to save money. I was in the wrong there. I should not have been eating cheese. But I have told the doctor that I am trying to spend $50EC (About $20US) per week on food to save money, and I can't afford to buy Ezekial bread (> $25EC) or goat cheese (> $20EC). Auntie Yolanda, who sits in the room with me during doctor's appointments, told the doctor that someone told her I was buying cat food. Now, cat food costs $33 per bad and lasts about two weeks.

I said that of course I buy the cat food, since I can't let the cat starve. They said that I should have cooked for the cat. Now, when I first got my cat, I did suggest cooking for the cat, but the vet and many, many other people advised me not to.

The doctor said that I should put my own health ahead of the cat. (Personally, I don't find that eating cheese affects me that much if I don't have too much of it, but bear in mind I might not be the best judge of my own actions.)

My mom's friend has paid for my medication and bought things for me, and she didn't have to, so I am being ungrateful getting so annoyed, but I feel like nobody's listening to me. I can't talk to anybody where I am, because what I realize now is that when I talk to people, they will talk to other people, and it will get back to my mom's friend. I am irresponsible and my room is often dirty. I often forget things.

On the other hand, I hate it when she tells me that people have told her things about me, but won't tell me who they are or what they said. If you're not going to tell me what was said, why mention it to me at all? She and the doctor like to tell me that I shouldn't feed my cat, because the "the cat won't die if it doesn't get fed," and I don't understand that. I think they expect me to have the cat to go out and eat birds and lizards.

What she's more likely to do is eat from my roommate's cat food. I've actually been trying to feed my cat less because she's getting fat, but I don't know how to keep her from eating the other cats' food. So even just not feeding the cat isn't really an option. If I tell them this, the doctor and my mom's friend will say that I just have to find a way. When I ask for advice, they just say that I should "just find a way".

I think that sometimes, I raise my voice without realizing it, and she'll say that her children never speak to her like that, and that I'm shouting at her. I genuinely don't think I'm shouting. I raise my voice, but I don't shout.

The TLDR of this is, am I just being selfish, or am I right to be upset? Feel free to ask for clarification if things don't make sense, as again, I may have mis-remembered things. Also bear in mind that I have made many, many people upset with me, so it's not just her.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm also very worried about leaving things out or getting things wrong, because generally, people will sympathize with me until they get to know me better, then it's yeah, you're an asshole. Which means the problem MUST lie with me somewhere. So I feel like the problem must be that my perspective is off somewhere, I'm just not sure where.

[(Anonymous)]

The one who won't tell you what people are saying is annoying, but since you seem reliant on these people, all you can do the next time she does it is calmly say "I wish you wouldn't tell me that, because it really upsets me to know I'm being talked about without knowing what was said."

And don't raise your voice. On the receiving end, there's not much difference between a raised voice and a shout.

[(Anonymous)]

Thank you. I remember that I've told her that before, but I can't exactly remember what her reaction was. I do know it wasn't good (and she still does it) but then again, maybe I was being rude? I live in one of these countries where you're not supposed to question people in authority like older people or doctors. Do you think it might work if I just tried not to say anything at all? It's difficult to keep quiet, especially if someone's saying something that I happen to know isn't true, but I think talking just makes things worse.