[ SECRET POST #3435 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3435 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Because you realize that you are an imperfect person who sometimes does the wrong thing and hurts other people, and you hope that they'll give you a second chance instead of dumping you?

[(Anonymous)]

The fact that being sorry never figures into your answer is pretty telling.

[(Anonymous)]

That's right, because while most of us would prefer to reserve forgiveness for people we think are suitably contrite, being sorry is separate from receiving forgiveness.

[(Anonymous)]

And that's a problem. A very dangerous, toxic problem. If you're not sorry, you don't deserve to be forgiven. Full stop.

[(Anonymous)]

What an odd notion: forgiveness and merit have nothing to do with one another.

[(Anonymous)]

You sound toxic.

[(Anonymous)]

And you sound like someone who imagines they've gone through life blamelessly, eternally wronged, never wronging anyone. Or do you expect to be instantly dumped and shunned by anyone whom you've hurt, unless they decide you feel terrible enough?

[(Anonymous)]

Or do you expect to be instantly dumped and shunned by anyone whom you've hurt

Yes, I do expect that. And I would not blame the person who cut me off at all. It's their right to do so.

[(Anonymous)]

Well, at least you're not a hypocrite.

[(Anonymous)]

if I don't feel sorry I don't deserve (or expect) forgiveness.
I'm confused, do you forgive people everything immediately because you might have wronged someone else similarly at some point in your life?

and what if you haven't done the same thing? someone once tried to set my hair on fire for shits and giggles, should I forgive them because I once said something mean behind someone's back?

[(Anonymous)]

No, of course I don't forgive people everything immediately, because I'm an imperfect person who likes to hold onto her grievances and the feeling that as the injured party, one has the right to judge another person--just like most of the people in this thread, in fact. But I regard failure to forgive as a moral failing on my part, precisely because I understand that like the average person, I have failed and wronged other people in my life--intentionally or not, knowingly or not. Not by setting anyone's hair on fire for shits and giggles, but you don't have to set someone's hair on fire for shits and giggles to hurt them badly. Saying mean things about people can do a good deal of harm too--possibly even greater and more lasting harm than setting their hair on fire.

[(Anonymous)]

You sound like one of those very people who uses someone's forgiveness as an excuse to keep being a dick.

A second chance is overrated. You get one shot. If you blow it? Fuck you, goodbye.