[ SECRET POST #3435 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3435 ⌋

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[(Anonymous)]

It's really quite dangerous when people conflate forgiveness with enduring abuse, or denying that you were wronged.

That doesn't stop anyone from having been raised with exactly that conflation. I came to associate "I forgive you" with "whatever you did that I was mad about before is now acceptable." Because that's exactly what it meant in my house, in my school, in my church, literally everywhere.

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AYRT

Yeah, that's exactly what I mean. Though I was thinking about fictional works more, the manipulative logical fallacy abusers and moral simpletons perpetuate goes from:

Forgiveness = Ceasing to feel resentment and/or seek vengeance

Ceasing to feel resentment and/or seek vengeance = A Good Thing

Ergo,

Forgiveness = A Good Thing


which is corrupted into:

Ceasing to feel resentment and/or seek vengeance = also, saying that the person did nothing wrong and accepting that behavior from them

Ergo,

saying that the person did nothing wrong and accepting that behavior from them = A Good Thing

Ironically, the corrupted definition of forgiveness usually doesn't even require ceasing to feel resentment, which is the key to the original definition (i.e., vengeance usually accomplishes nothing and resentment is a crappy and draining emotion that drags you down and doesn't stop the shitty person, so why not try to get rid of them for you own personal happiness?), and is pretty much limited to just "put up and shut up."