[ SECRET POST #3444 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3444 ⌋

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Comments

Re: "Bisexual Erasure"

[sarillia]

"Stop policing identities, you're turning into bizarro gold stars."

This is the part that really gets to me. I hate when they act like any woman who has ever dated a man must be called bisexual. There are plenty of lesbians who have dated men. It's often part of being in the closet. I hate when people are trying to correct others while denying the realities of being LGB.

Re: "Bisexual Erasure"

[(Anonymous)]

Or just part of figuring out who you are.

I dated guys through my first two years of college because at that time, in the environment I was raised in, girls grew up and fell in love with guys and got married. That was the narrative. No one really talked about sexual desire except in vague, clinical terms in sex ed, so - love is like liking, right? I liked my guy friends fine, so clearly there was no reason to say no when they asked me out, and if I was put off when they kissed me, and still put off when I slept with them, that was something wrong with me, right?

Realizing that my disinterest in guys, and my very definite interest in women, was something that other people felt too was a fucking life-changing revelation. The fact that I was sheltered growing up in ye olde pre-internet days and did the "normal" thing because that's just what you did doesn't make me any less a big ol' lesbian.

Re: "Bisexual Erasure"

[a_potato]

It goes in the opposite direction, as well. I've seen straight women who have dated or fooled around with women get told that they're bisexual.

Only seems to be applied to women, though. Men who fool around with other men tend to be told that they're gay, straight up. Implies some interesting things about how we view femininity, masculinity, and sexuality.

Re: "Bisexual Erasure"

[sarillia]

I haven't seen that much since most of what I've seen is annoying fights where lesbians and bisexual women squabble over who characters and even real people in history belong to. But that is a problem too. Sometimes straight people need to take some time to figure themselves out too and there's nothing wrong with that.