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⌈ Secret Post #3468 ⌋

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sad feelings

[(Anonymous)]

post em here

Re: sad feelings

[(Anonymous)]

I've been drawing on and off for about 10 years as a hobby and it kills me to see how little I've improved, how rarely I finish things. I avoided making it a career because I didn't want to fail and I was afraid that I wouldn't have the work ethic. I know I got nobody but myself to blame for not working harder and taking a chance that's the worst feeling of all.

Re: sad feelings

[a_potato]

I think you've probably improved more than you think, and the amount of stuff you've got unfinished is normal for a creative person.

You're okay, anon.

Re: sad feelings

[(Anonymous)]

I'm sorry dad.

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[(Anonymous)]

I just got my driver's permit (age 27 in friggin' California, woo!) and I'm seriously concerned I'm going to kill someone when I start driving. The reason I never went through with my license when I was a teen was because I was a nightmare behind the wheel -- a combination of no ability to pay attention to enough different things at one time and a bizarre sort of reverse-luck that made literally everything jump out into the street in front of me. I did all my hours with a driving instructor back then and the second I had to drive a vehicle without an extra set of breaks, I was too scared to even cross a street that didn't have a light.

Everyone's telling me I've matured and so on, but I don't like this at all. I wouldn't be doing it if my parents weren't being so insistent. (Long story but no, I can't refuse then, they're actually being very reasonable considering our family circumstances and my own evolving role in the family.)

Re: sad feelings

[(Anonymous)]

It sounds mean, but honestly: take it slow, be careful, and you will get used to it over time.

Re: sad feelings

[blitzwing]

Maybe keep this in mind: you do not have to be the kind of driver everyone else is. If you get your license and still want to walk to places close by? You can do that, even if everyone else would take the car. You want to go the art museum downtown and you can take the bus? You can still take the bus, even if you have your license.

Everyone else would make that turn in front of the oncoming car because they think there's waaaaaay plenty of room/time? You don't have to make that turn. You can wait till the street is clear if you want to.

Everyone else drives 90mph on the freeway? You can drive 40mph if that's what you feel comfortable and safe doing (if that's the freeway minimum mph in your state).

Traffic distracts you? Do your grocery shopping at 3 AM if that's what works for you.

You can have your license and drive as little or as cautiously as you'd like to. You don't have to be as good or comfortable at driving as everyone else. You just have to be good and comfortable enough to safely do what you need to do. Take your time and don't try to push yourself to be the same kind of driver everyone else is. You may need to go slower and be more cautious.

I wish you good luck in getting your full license.

Re: sad feelings

[(Anonymous)]

I was 23 when I got my liscence (27 now) and confidence will come with experience. The more you drive the more comfortable you will feel.

Re: sad feelings

[dethtoll]

I remember being a little nervous when I first started driving too.

Drive a lot. Make little trips to the store. Get a feel for the area. Confidence will come. <3

Re: sad feelings

[(Anonymous)]

I spent years being terrified of driving before feeling more comfortable driving. What's worse is I got into 3 collisions the first 2 years of driving so I spent YEARS thinking I was always going to have shit luck with driving a car. And then a couple years later my car died on a super busy highway and I didn't own a cell phone so it was the kindness of strangers that I was able to move my car off the road and call my parents. It was terrifying.
BUT I made it through all of that and I've had more scary encounters while on the road and I've learned that it's best to keep a cool head and stay calm.
Best of luck. It takes a lot of time and patience to become more comfortable driving.

Re: sad feelings

[(Anonymous)]

I sympathize with the sensory overload, but it gets better with experience. In particular, you get used to areas where you drive a lot and you anticipate things like stop signs or people in the bike lane, and unusual things, like a stalled car or construction, will stand out. I've been driving for 20 years and there are still times when I feel I need to focus harder and stay extra-aware, like if the weather is bad or I'm in a completely different part of the country where traffic patterns and rules and people's driving habits might be a bit different than what I'm used to (California is actually one of those places!)

Hey I get this.

[chardmonster]

I actually got my license around the same time. Frankly I flat out didn't need one earlier, I had an apartment right on the bus line and couldn't afford a car.

I was fucking terrified. And soon it becomes routine, and soon after that you won't be scared anymore.

It'll be fine. The one thing I can tell you is don't let anyone force you on the highway before you feel ready. But you will soon enough.

Re: sad feelings

[otakugal15]

Hey, I was 25. and I still get nervous driving, especially if I have people in the car with me.

Practice will make you less nervous, I promise.

Re: sad feelings

[(Anonymous)]

My groupmates are ruining the experience of an art class I was really excited for by fighting with the professor and bad mouthing the class and everyone's art but their own every chance they get, and it just... It just sucks man.

Re: sad feelings

[(Anonymous)]

I'm sad because my bff since high school is in a relationship with a terrible man. The relationship is utterly toxic, (she calls it her midlife crisis) but she won't let him go even when he does unforgivable things and violates her trust. I learned today that he has given her meth and she srarted cutting again over their problems. She hasn't cut in more than 20 years and was off hard drugs for longer than that.

I'm scared for her and because I know I can't do anything more than watch this play out. I am a wreck inside, with no option but to feel this way until I work through the mess in my head and heart.

Re: sad feelings

[sparrow_lately]

Grief is hard/family is weird/also Elie Wiesel died :(

Re: sad feelings

[(Anonymous)]

:(

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[(Anonymous)]

I don't think I'm dealing with death of family member well. It's been almost 3 years

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[(Anonymous)]

I have been failing to deal with the death of a family member for at least 32 years now. 33 come September. Sometimes some wounds don't heal and some grief or guilt never passes no matter what anyone says.

Re: sad feelings

[diet_poison]

Dude, I still on some days am not over a breakup that's now more than five years ago. A death in the family is a whole 'nother thing especially if it's someone you were extremely close to. Obviously you should take steps to heal, move on, and live a normal live - these are good things. But it's also really normal and ok to still carry some of that grief with you for a long time.

Don't be afraid or ashamed to seek professional help.

<3

Re: sad feelings

[nanslice]

I'm sorry. :(

Re: sad feelings

[(Anonymous)]

I turned 30 this year and I feel like I'm wasting my life. I work a mundane job that I get no satisfaction from. It's easy and pays the bill. I don't really hang out with my friends anymore. I still talk semi-regularly with my best friend but he lives on the other side of the country now so...I miss him A LOT. I wish I would have done more with my 20s.

Re: sad feelings

[diet_poison]

I'm turning 26 and I'm starting to feel this way a little bit. I'm actually pretty ok with where I am career-wise, but I feel like I could be doing more than I am with my social life, and I'm really averse to the idea of still being single at 30 - partly because I can get very lonely, but also because the longer it is until I meet the right person, the smaller a window I will have for having kids if I decide I want biological children (and the younger they will be when I eventually die, which is another big drawback) and I don't want to rush into it right away either. I wish our biological windows weren't so small :(

Anyway yeah I kinda feel you. But honestly - and this sounds cheesy - it's not too late. Most people live past sixty; you still have the greater part of your life ahead of you, and contrary to what many people say, the 20s are not necessarily the best years of your life. You can still be happy at 30, 40, 60, and 100. Make the effort to meet new people in whatever ways you can. If you like your job, cool! If you don't like it, look for more opportunities or windows for advancement. Many people still are looking in their 30s and 40s for the job they really want, and it's not uncommon to change career tracks, either.

Re: sad feelings

[a_potato]

My husband and son are away in another state.

I miss them a lot. :(

Re: sad feelings

[nanslice]

My dad passed away on the 22nd of cancer and now I'm so scared of death, and in particular my mom dying. As far as I know there's nothing wrong with her, she's getting along as well as she ever has, but she never goes to the doctor, she's 73, and she smokes regularly.

And I'm so scared for her. Much more than she's scared for herself, haha. :(