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⌈ Secret Post #3468 ⌋

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Re: sad feelings

[(Anonymous)]

I just got my driver's permit (age 27 in friggin' California, woo!) and I'm seriously concerned I'm going to kill someone when I start driving. The reason I never went through with my license when I was a teen was because I was a nightmare behind the wheel -- a combination of no ability to pay attention to enough different things at one time and a bizarre sort of reverse-luck that made literally everything jump out into the street in front of me. I did all my hours with a driving instructor back then and the second I had to drive a vehicle without an extra set of breaks, I was too scared to even cross a street that didn't have a light.

Everyone's telling me I've matured and so on, but I don't like this at all. I wouldn't be doing it if my parents weren't being so insistent. (Long story but no, I can't refuse then, they're actually being very reasonable considering our family circumstances and my own evolving role in the family.)

Re: sad feelings

[(Anonymous)]

It sounds mean, but honestly: take it slow, be careful, and you will get used to it over time.

Re: sad feelings

[blitzwing]

Maybe keep this in mind: you do not have to be the kind of driver everyone else is. If you get your license and still want to walk to places close by? You can do that, even if everyone else would take the car. You want to go the art museum downtown and you can take the bus? You can still take the bus, even if you have your license.

Everyone else would make that turn in front of the oncoming car because they think there's waaaaaay plenty of room/time? You don't have to make that turn. You can wait till the street is clear if you want to.

Everyone else drives 90mph on the freeway? You can drive 40mph if that's what you feel comfortable and safe doing (if that's the freeway minimum mph in your state).

Traffic distracts you? Do your grocery shopping at 3 AM if that's what works for you.

You can have your license and drive as little or as cautiously as you'd like to. You don't have to be as good or comfortable at driving as everyone else. You just have to be good and comfortable enough to safely do what you need to do. Take your time and don't try to push yourself to be the same kind of driver everyone else is. You may need to go slower and be more cautious.

I wish you good luck in getting your full license.

Re: sad feelings

[(Anonymous)]

I was 23 when I got my liscence (27 now) and confidence will come with experience. The more you drive the more comfortable you will feel.

Re: sad feelings

[dethtoll]

I remember being a little nervous when I first started driving too.

Drive a lot. Make little trips to the store. Get a feel for the area. Confidence will come. <3

Re: sad feelings

[(Anonymous)]

I spent years being terrified of driving before feeling more comfortable driving. What's worse is I got into 3 collisions the first 2 years of driving so I spent YEARS thinking I was always going to have shit luck with driving a car. And then a couple years later my car died on a super busy highway and I didn't own a cell phone so it was the kindness of strangers that I was able to move my car off the road and call my parents. It was terrifying.
BUT I made it through all of that and I've had more scary encounters while on the road and I've learned that it's best to keep a cool head and stay calm.
Best of luck. It takes a lot of time and patience to become more comfortable driving.

Re: sad feelings

[(Anonymous)]

I sympathize with the sensory overload, but it gets better with experience. In particular, you get used to areas where you drive a lot and you anticipate things like stop signs or people in the bike lane, and unusual things, like a stalled car or construction, will stand out. I've been driving for 20 years and there are still times when I feel I need to focus harder and stay extra-aware, like if the weather is bad or I'm in a completely different part of the country where traffic patterns and rules and people's driving habits might be a bit different than what I'm used to (California is actually one of those places!)

Hey I get this.

[chardmonster]

I actually got my license around the same time. Frankly I flat out didn't need one earlier, I had an apartment right on the bus line and couldn't afford a car.

I was fucking terrified. And soon it becomes routine, and soon after that you won't be scared anymore.

It'll be fine. The one thing I can tell you is don't let anyone force you on the highway before you feel ready. But you will soon enough.

Re: sad feelings

[otakugal15]

Hey, I was 25. and I still get nervous driving, especially if I have people in the car with me.

Practice will make you less nervous, I promise.