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⌈ Secret Post #3486 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

For people who are just over or just under thirty and unmarried.

Have family or people around you started pressuring you to get married yet? Do you plan on getting married or would you like to get married soon?

[sparrow_lately]

My parents don't want me to think about marriage because they don't like my relationship. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ whatevah. 2018, save the date bitches!

[diet_poison]

Define "just under". I just turned 26 so that might be a little younger than what you're asking about. I haven't gotten pressure and I don't think my parents will pressure me to get married at any point, but that's probably because they know how much I do want to (but not til I meet the right guy, I ain't gonna settle). Also because they're decent people lol. I know they want grandkids (and they'll get them), but they're not the type to guilt their grown children into having kids for their own gratification (note: they also both have lives of their own beyond "work" and "my kids").

[iceyred]

My mother has been sighing and saying in a very dramatic and forlorn manner "I don't think she'll ever get married." FOR YEARS.

'Course, she's missed all my friends and neighbors getting married when they were over 30. She also never thought I would date much and I date plenty. So what does Mom know?

[philstar22]

Not right now. They have in the past, but right now they are more concerned with me finding a job.

I guess maybe I'd like to be married at some point. I have so little dating experience honestly. I would like a relationship.

[kaijinscendre]

Nah. They may mention it every now and again, but I got 3 other sisters they can focus on.

[(Anonymous)]

I just turned 27 and my mom is definitely dropping me hints that soon my eggs will dry up and I'll never find happiness.

The problem is, I do want kids one day, and it's starting to get to me. Other problem, I'm a lesbian and not likely to get knocked up even if I try. I wonder if I can just wander into a sperm clinic and be like "hit me!"..

[comma_chameleon]

32. Parents, no. Extended family, dunno, dun care.

No plans to get married. Not sure I could find someone I could stand enough for that long other than my best friend.

[shortysc22]

My grandmother mentions it casually. My mom just wants me to be happy and there's no pressure but she wants me to find someone who complements me.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm 31, and thankfully, no, none of my family's done that. I don't see my relatives often enough for them to have a chance to comment on the idea of me getting married, but even when I do see them, they've never really raised it as an issue. And my mom has never pressured me (or my sister) to get married, nor did my dad when he was alive. All my parents have ever wanted for my sister and me is to be happy with whatever we choose to do with our lives, and be able to take care of ourselves financially and so on. If that includes marriage, great, if not, that's fine, too.

Plus, my parents got married when they were 20 years old, and while they had a great marriage (32 years), I remember them talking years later about how that they'd wished they'd held off on marrying for a couple more years or so, so they could get their own lives in order first and do things they might've had a little more difficulty doing when married. So that's another reason they've never insisted my sister and I HAD to settle down.

My mom's co-workers, on the other hand? They seem REALLY invested in wanting to know why my sister (who is married) doesn't have kids yet, or why I'm not married and having children. They seem utterly shocked that my mom isn't pressuring me to settle down, despite the fact that I don't even know them. Why, I don't know, but it's alternately amusing and annoying.

Speaking for myself, yeah, I wouldn't mind getting married someday if I met the right sort of guy. I'm not looking to walk down the aisle anytime soon, no, mainly because I want my life to be in a much more stable place before I even consider bringing someone else into it. But I won't rule it out in the future.

[(Anonymous)]

I've been getting pressured since 21. Though to be fair, it was by a narcissistic parental unit who despised everything I did and always threw out the "you need to get married" thing in a nasty tone whenever I objected to them not seeing me as an adult, or not observing healthy boundaries, or not treating me with any respect whatsoever. They don't understand why I've "shut them out."

Everyone else was less insane, they at least waited until I was at least 29 before expressing shock, SHOCK! that I was not married.

I have no current plans to be married, but I'm not closed off to the idea.

[(Anonymous)]

My dad doesn't care, but my mom's been pressuring me since I graduated college. She thinks being alone is the worst thing ever, but surprised me by being oddly open-minded and said she didn't care if I "shacked up" with a guy or two or turned out to be a lesbian, just as long as I wasn't alone. She's a staunch, conservative Catholic, so it surprised the hell out of me, but it was a really sweet thing for her to say. I don't plan on ever getting married though. It's just not for me.

[nightscale]

Nope, but I think part of that is because my brother got married and now has kids so he's grabbed all my parents attention in that regard. Thanks bro!

And my bf's parents don't like me much so they sure as hell aren't trying to push us into getting married(I know his dad wants him to dump me).

I don't know if I want to get married though, maybe? I don't mind the idea of being someone's wife but I kind of balk at the idea of a ceremony, but either way I'm not ready for it yet at all.

[dethtoll]

Mom's been pressuring me since I was a teenager.

Not interested.

[nanslice]

I'm 30 and while friends and family don't pressure me about it, acquaintances/strangers who get wind of it do. It's very strange.

[(Anonymous)]

Nawh. I made a fuss of "NEVER GOING TO GET MARRIED" in elementary through high school so now my parents know better than to expect anything from me. Of course at the time I wasn't legally allowed to get married. I crushed their grandkid dreams too.

[skeletal_history]

I'm 38 and will never marry (cue the Morrissey song), and when my mom was alive, I got a little gentle pressure from her to give her grandkids. But shockingly, from no one else in my opinionated family have I heard a peep.

[soldatsasha]

I have one grandma who likes to drop hints about it. She's not terribly pushy about it, more the classic "you're my oldest grandchild I'm 80 when are you going to get married and give me grandbabies?"

My industry is very insular and doesn't lend itself well to dating or marriage. I would honestly be pretty shocked if someone I work with implied I should get married or even date. And I never talk to customers or clients long enough for that to even come up in the discussion. So other then that one grandma I don't get family or people around me pressuring me.

[(Anonymous)]

My mom was getting a bit antsy about grandchildren when I was in my early 30s, but she mostly kept it under wraps. I'm 36 and I think she's quietly accepted it may not happen with me (not sure if my brother is getting any pressure). I don't really want kids, although I'm a little frustrated that it's not likely to be a viable option unless I meet Mr. Right quite soon (it's not something I have any interest in doing by myself) so I can be sure whether I truly don't.

[dancingmouse]

I used to get the whole "When you get married" or "When you have kids" mentions from my Grandma. I'd just laugh and go "Nope, not going to happen." Of course "Oh, you'll change your mind one day!" was thrown around, until I think she finally realized that it really WASN'T going to happen and it got dropped. My cousin having a baby also helped distract her from me, while fulfilling the "I want grandkids!" quota. For now, at least.

My Mom never really pushed it. She mentioned it a few times, but dropped it rather quickly when my answer remained a consistent "Never gonna happen. Ask my brothers."

[caerbannog]

Well since I'm gay and marriage ain't an option... Never brought up :/

[mimi-sardinia.livejournal.com]

Well I'm a bit over your age range - 38 - but I never got pressure from Mum, but she also knew about it when I started hanging around the LJ Childfree comms, so she probably got it before I really did.

I've only had one minor conversation, years ago now with Dad where he made some comment about "You don't know what will happen", but the subject of grandchildren came up last weekend while he was here and he didn't make anything of it when Mum said she's gotten used to the idea she will never be a grandmother (yeah, even my brothers look like life-long bachelors), or if I get a chance to be able to have children (which would involve moving house) they would be quadrupedal and say "Meow".

[(Anonymous)]

I think some people said stuff like that when I was that age, and gave up when I just looked puzzled and disgusted.

I kind of wish I'd gotten married, just because I suck at keeping up with things on my own, but it wasn't something I was remotely trying to do at the time.

[dahli]

Very insistently, yes. I would like to get married, but I would also like to get a job, travel a bit and have get my life back on track and all that. Also right now I don't really feel ready to get married, either. Who knows if I'll get a chance in the future.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm long past the point now, but when I was in my late 20s, my grandmother was trying to get me to marry my long-term live-in boyfriend (not out of any particular affection for him, she'd just prefer that to our continuing to "live in sin.")

After we broke up, she would regularly ask me if I was seeing anybody, and tell me that I wouldn't find anyone if I didn't "put myself out there."