[ SECRET POST #3500 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3500 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Eghk9bVNN9M ]


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03.
[Impractical Jokers (R-L): Joe, Q, Sal, Murr]


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04.
[American Gods]


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05.
[Pretty Little Liars]


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06.
[Doctor Who]


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07.
[A Game of Thrones, Littlefinger/Sansa]


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08.
[Brie Larson vs. Alison Brie]














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Comments

poll

[(Anonymous)]

Do you enjoy sex? Y/N

Re: poll

[(Anonymous)]

Insufficient data to answer

Re: poll

[(Anonymous)]

You're not missing much.

Re: poll

[(Anonymous)]

Y

Re: poll

[(Anonymous)]

No.

Penetrative sex is painful for me, and that level of intimacy generally freaks me the fuck out, probably due to past abuse.

Re: poll

[(Anonymous)]

i notice you specify penetrative sex--would the answer be different for other types? i think the poll is open to interpretation!

Re: poll

[(Anonymous)]

Probably not because of the intimacy issues.

Re: poll

[(Anonymous)]

fair!

Re: poll

[(Anonymous)]

How can I know what I've never done?

masturbation's pretty tight tho

Re: poll

[(Anonymous)]

That it is!

Re: poll

[(Anonymous)]

N.



Yesterday I found a discussion from awhile back where someone kept insisting that there was no difference between feeling sexually attracted to someone and wanting to fuck them. That person is wrong. I feel sexual attraction but I don't enjoy sex. Hence I do not want to fuck anyone I feel sexually attracted to.

Re: poll

[(Anonymous)]

Can you explain the difference? Every definition I've been able to find of sexual attraction says it means "looking at someone and wanting to have sex with them" which you're disagreeing with.

If you don't want to have sex with them, then what makes you sexually attracted to them?

Re: poll

[(Anonymous)]

Nayrt but I can think of plenty of reasons people would want to have sex in theory but have no real life desire to actually have the sex

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[diet_poison]

I personally hate that definition. It leaves out so much nuance.

Re: poll

[(Anonymous)]

Y

Re: poll

[(Anonymous)]

yes

Re: poll

[(Anonymous)]

Yea, mostly.

If it's really "good" intense sex, though, my mood and energy will crash afterwards. Sometimes it feels like it lasts for days. I finally googled it and it's a thing called post-coital dysphoria. What a bummer...

Re: poll

[(Anonymous)]

No, and if I had my way, I'd never do it again.

Re: poll

[(Anonymous)]

eh

it's like a bottle of lukewarm water, it's not horrible and terrible but not worth the effort

Re: poll

[(Anonymous)]

Y

Kinda wish people could be happier with the answers to this question. I'm okay with mine, I guess.

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[(Anonymous)]

I enjoy sex only if it's with someone I want.

OMFG YUSSSSSSS

[(Anonymous)]

And I'm GLAD to. With my history, carving out a happy sex life for myself has been one of my greatest achievments.

I have never gotten more transcendently laid as often as I am now. Fuckin A.

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[(Anonymous)]

Never had it, got some squicks that'd need to be managed before I could do anything, and the only person I'd want to do it with at this point is in another country.
But it sounds nice in theory at least? *shrug*

Re: poll

[(Anonymous)]

"It's complicated"

I do enjoy sex - however, since I'm anorgasmic, it's hard to convince partners that yes, I'm having a good time but no, no, please don't try to stop yourself from coming and please, please, please don't think you have to "keep trying" to make me finish - because I won't.

I had one partner who "got it" and we had really great times. Sadly, since then it's mainly people who have SAID they understand but then really take it personally that they can't make me orgasm. Which sucks, so for the past few years there hasn't been any sex TO enjoy- the potential fun isn't worth the explanations and the ego salving I have to do ("No, you're REALLY GOOD at that, and I really enjoyed it! Really, really, really! Yes, I know I didn't "finish" but I really had a good time!)

I wish it were easier to get people to understand "I don't orgasm, I never have, and after ages of trying and stressing out about it I've accepted that that's not going to happen. Nonetheless, I absolutely love everything else - I like the kissing and the body contact, and the tongues, and the penetration and the thrusting and I especially like watching YOU come to a peak; so, please, can we just have fun, can you trust me when I say I'm having fun, and can we just accept that orgasms for me are off the table and not a goal and that's fine?"

Bah.

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[diet_poison]

I'm really surprised so many people have a difficult time with this concept. I probably shouldn't be though. I don't know if you're sleeping with guys, gals, or both, but I have heard a lot about how cultural factors with dudes put a lot of pressure on them to "perform" and they judge themselves based on their ability to make a partner come. (Which also leads to a lot of women faking it, which is another interesting phenomenon that still always mildly surprises me - like, why would you do that?)