[ SECRET POST #3538 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3538 ⌋

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Comments

[chardmonster]

Okay so: I definitely see fandom and RP as a valid way to figure out what's up with yourself. One of the ways I figured out I liked women was RP, and one of the ways I came to terms with it was making sure I was constantly looking at wlw-positive media.

But gender is much more about just wanting to be something, isn't it? I mean I grew up absolutely wanting to be a boy, because I liked boy stuff. I thought guys got to have more fun. I am 100% female and at peace with that as an adult. Wanting to be a guy did not make me a guy, any more than thinking "hmm, it might be nice to try kissing girls" made me actually enjoy that.

Does that make sense? I'm under the impression that being trans is a lot more complicated and fraught than just trying on a different identity like a different outfit (I'm not including people who are uncertain, of course that's a wobbly state to be in).

[(Anonymous)]

But gender is much more about just wanting to be something, isn't it? I mean I grew up absolutely wanting to be a boy, because I liked boy stuff. I thought guys got to have more fun. I am 100% female and at peace with that as an adult. Wanting to be a guy did not make me a guy, any more than thinking "hmm, it might be nice to try kissing girls" made me actually enjoy that.

This so much. I was the same way-- when I was a kid, I wanted to be a boy because I liked boy things. I thought that girls weren't supposed to like boy things, so my kid logic dictated that I should therefore be a boy so that it would be okay to like boy stuff. I didn't actually want to be male, I just wanted my interests to be considered normal. Now that I'm an adult, I too am 100% comfortable with being female because it was never a gender issue in the first place, it was an issue with gender roles.