[ SECRET POST #3538 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3538 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Wow, this has actually been confusing me recently. I have a relative who's been obsessed with yaoi since early teens and never expressed any dislike towards being called she, a girl, etc until he started hanging out with a group of attack helicopters (the types that have long profiles full of of self-diagnosed mental illnesses and gender/sexual identities that they "coined") during early 20s. Then he came out as gay FTM to everyone he knows and... nothing has changed. He doesn't want to see a psychiatrist or start any kind of treatment at all, not even practicing a masculine voice. I'm gonna call him what he asks me to, but... is this normal? There's no way to tell he's anything other than a woman who likes baggy clothing until he tells you. Is a non-closeted trans person supposed to be fine with just being called a different pronoun and having no other changes in their life? This has been going on for a few years now.

[(Anonymous)]

Sounds like a classic case of transtrending.

[(Anonymous)]

This is pretty obvious, she's just a woman caught up in dreams and fantasies.

[(Anonymous)]

Even if he's a woman, it doesn't cost you anything to call him with whatever pronouns he finds comfortable. As long as he doesn't try to pass himself as the one true voice of all transgender people, where's the harm?

[(Anonymous)]

Well OP, it is frankly not your business but his what he does.

However to answer that - transness is a whole spectrum so you have transsexual people who deal are essentially mostly dysphoric (why it is not always the case, will write below) and need medical transition, you have transgender crowd that might differ a bit transition wise, agender folks, genderfluid ones and so on so forth.

You also do not know what are his transition goals or full situation. To some a full transition is just to be perceived how they want without it being strangers - some might be opposite. To illustrate - I am a gay trans bloke but you'd not guess because massive boobs which I can't bind because back issues (cripple here, so yeah). Also you would not tell I am on T for years as no one in my family even has typical masculine voice. Weight redistribution is same as always because disability.

Yet, quite surprising and I kid you not - no one questions me.

Don't be an arse and no idea how old are you but I assume older than your relative so probably middle age. Even if he changes or does whatever - hey, it's his experience. Also, there used to be reason why people listed stuff, dunno if it is still the same. It was common with other disabled folks to easily understand other's standpoint. My internet profiles have stuff listed because it was easier to read for autistic friends. Some might do it because they fancy it and yeah, some might just want to fit in.

Mate, it doesn't affect you in any way, nor is your relative's story yours. Let it go.