[ SECRET POST #3563 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3563 ⌋

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Comments

Half-Drunk Self Esteem Question

[(Anonymous)]

You're just supposed to have self-esteem and confidence, right?

But, if no one has ever really found you attractive, and you have every reason in the world to suppose that no one will ever find you attractive, how the hell are you supposed to have that self-esteem and confidence? Huh???

How do you just take it on faith that there is someone in the world who could be attracted to you? Just seems like an impossible thing to believe you know

Re: Half-Drunk Self Esteem Question

[(Anonymous)]

No, almost everyone fakes it til they make it, and confidence itself can inspire attraction.

It's just that most people don't realize everyone else is faking it til they make it until they're way older.

Re: Half-Drunk Self Esteem Question

[(Anonymous)]

idk i think you're born with 100% self esteem and confidence and immediately life starts to slowly drain it out of you

Re: Half-Drunk Self Esteem Question

[(Anonymous)]

Not necessarily. People don't just "have" self-esteem and confidence, they develop and build it over time. Self esteem and confidence doesn't have to be based solely on whether or not people find you attractive, either. In fact, that's an extremely weak foundation for self esteem and confidence, so it's no wonder you're having difficulty.

If you're not happy with who you are, your abilities, your accomplishments, your passions, your goals in life... then why not work to change that for the better? Because I think if you were happy with all those things, you'd find that self esteem and confidence comes more naturally to you.

Re: Half-Drunk Self Esteem Question

[(Anonymous)]

It's only impossible if you believe there's nothing redeemable or worthy about yourself. I don't know whether or not that's true, but the good news is that even if it IS true, it doesn't have to be. You can improve yourself whether you're with someone or not. People are generally attracted to other people who are interesting, know things, do interesting stuff, and have their shit together. Do those things and I think you'll surprise yourself.

Re: Half-Drunk Self Esteem Question

[(Anonymous)]

The best self esteem and confidence should not come from how someone else views you. It should not be built up solely by the knowledge that someone other than yourself thinks you're attractive or smart or funny or whatever.