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Also people who will use 'societal oppression' to justify why they're I dunno entitled to be petty and rude to individuals who have nothing to do with things. People who will say things like " I don't care about your feelings." "your gender has hurt mine for generations you can deal"or "I drink X tears"

You're not being revolutionary or progressive, you're just a prick who uses social issues to justify being an asshole. Any schmuck can find a justification to keep being a shit to people and say it's okay for them. That doesn't make it right or justified.

Don't get me wrong I value standing up for oneself. But I know the difference between someone being assertive and someone being aggressive.

Amen to all of this.

Your post in general is spot on, though, really. Especially the thing about people's attitude towards kids. If kids act up in public, my issue isn't with them, 'cause kids get cranky and are rambunctious and curious and whatnot. No, my issue is with the parents for not knowing how to handle those moments when they come up.

And I personally have no plans to have kids anytime soon, but I sure as hell wouldn't rain on the parade of somebody who does want kids and finds out they're pregnant and whatnot. If somebody wants a family, I like seeing them be able to get that, and some people are really awesome with kids and would make fantastic parents.

I remember not to long ago being in a waiting room with a mother with a toddler. The toddler was walking around and playing with a toy and the mother tried to keep her close. The mother tried to make her sit down and she got upset, tossed her toys and cried. Her mother rebuked her commenting "this is not how my [name] acts" and I just wanted to say "Lady your kid is BORED. She's a toddler and doesn't have the attention span to sit quietly like an older kid would. FFS the kid isn't acting up to spite you."

It's amazing how often some parents expect their toddlers to behave like angels but don't understand kids or child development at all.

Also in some cases with toddlers and babies just learning things, being cold toward them and squashing their pretend games can actually harm their development. And that's a shit thing to do.

Toys are not just possessions to own. For children they're learning tools. For developing skills, understanding and imagination. Children LEARN by playing.

That's why I was so mad one time I saw a post about a mother smugly bragging about how she sold ALL her daughter's toys as 'clutter' so she can "appreciate the world more". Not only has she just destroyed her daughter's trust permanently, but she's taken away all of her daughter's learning tools.

Child development courses should be a necessity in education. Maybe if more people got the chance to learn they might be able to discipline and help their children better

that's so sad :(

I just wanted to say "Lady your kid is BORED. She's a toddler and doesn't have the attention span to sit quietly like an older kid would. FFS the kid isn't acting up to spite you."

It's amazing how often some parents expect their toddlers to behave like angels but don't understand kids or child development at all.

Exactly. Either that or she's tired and needs a nap, one of the two.

I do think some parents honestly think having children will be nothing but cute fluff moments and for whatever reason, they don't bother to consider the exhaustion and temper tantrums and stress and whatnot that comes with it. They just somehow assume it'll be smooth sailing, and...no. Not at all.

Either that, or the kids were just kind of an unexpected thing for them, and they're woefully unprepared to handle this surprise family that's been thrust at them all of a sudden.

That story about the woman being proud of taking away her daughter's toys is heartbreaking :(. Seriously, what the hell kind of logic is that?

My mom told me a story once about a co-worker of hers who'd put her young child on Ritalin because, according to her, "if I didn't, she'd just go around the house singing all day."

My mom was stunned by this, and all she could think in response was, "...yeah, and...?". Like, that's what kids DO. That breeds imagination and keeps them occupied and entertained. That's a GOOD thing. Geez, when I was little, I used to talk to the sun, of all things :p! I honestly don't understand why any parent would want to quash that.

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