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[ SECRET POST #3666 ]

⌈ Secret Post #3666 ⌋

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I miss cuteanimalpics. Their posts brightened many a day for me.

Also, I just realised that I still think of Chard and Noodly as a couple but as that was five or six years ago, they might not be anymore.

No they aren't, they also ended on bad terms and it's a touchy subject, apparently.

Anon's right, we ended on bad terms. Noodle broke up with me on the phone a couple hours after I got home from visiting him. Lots of crying on his part about how sad it was and subsequent letting me take the blame for it because he's like that. I find out a couple weeks later the guy was cheating on me the entire relationship, and telling women on Fetlife we were in an open relationship so that he'd look trustworthy to engage in risky activities with them. He's not a good person. I say this here because he looks to meet women on internet communities.

I was damaged for awhile but I'm better now. I'm posting this from my lovely girlfriend's apartment, where we just had some gin and tonics and are celebrating our first anniversary. She's wonderful and good to me. And I just finished my doctoral program! So my life is good. I don't post here mostly because I'm always checking really really late, long after anyone's talking. I'm still in contact with folks like NurseJoy and Fingalsanteater. Everybody's well and happy.

Good on you, and I'm sorry you had to go through that.

And by better I really do mean better. My dissertation went awesome and I shouldn't have a problem getting it published. And my girlfriend is... I can't really find the superlatives. She's beautiful and kind and clever as hell. I'm incredibly lucky and proud of her.

And thanks--that means a lot! I hope you're doing well too.

Edited 2017-01-17 21:37 (UTC)

Awesome! Congratulations. :)

And I am, thanks.

This pleases me. In the sense that he always seemed like a douche to me and you seemed cool, so I'm glad you're in a good place now. Sorry you had to go through that to get there though.

Hey, thanks. That means a lot.

But yeah, he's a jerk. Example: complained about condoms, so we went without! I was cool with this because I thought he was a good guy and we were in a committed relationship. I was on the pill so it was fine!

No, it was not fine. He was screwing other women so often he thought I should be comforted that he occasionally tried to be faithful for like two months at a time! But it's okay, he took STD tests (that I am supposed to actually believe he took for some reason)! So I should be okay with this!

Do you have any idea how fucking humiliating it is to take an STD test when you thought you were totally safe? There's no shame in STD tests, everyone should get them, but thinking someone cared about you and then having to do that? Not cool.

PSA: If a guy seems creepy and the only way to get over the feeling is to keep telling yourself you're being unreasonable and mean, listen to your instincts instead.

Please keep in mind, this wasn't just me. He was lying to multiple women in at least two states, and using his relationship as part of the lie. If he tries to pick you up, don't trust him. Don't trust what he says his current girlfriend is okay with unless you actually talk to her. And then, do not under any circumstances pursue any kind of emotional relationship. He cares more about being A Helper than actually helping you. He doesn't really care about sexual partners past the tip of his you know what, and he knows to go after people who are vulnerable.

Edited 2017-01-17 21:30 (UTC)

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Things really are better now, thank god.

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The dude seriously is and more.