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No. I am asexual. That is not a normal response.

Agreed. The OP may be asexual alongside this, but what they are describing is definitely not normal or necessarily have anything to do with being asexual.

Not all asexual people are the same though. OP could be sex repulsed or just generally feel different than you.

Sex repulsed people don't like sex with others. They don't respond to arousal the same way they respond to vomiting.

Are you sex-repulsed, though? There's lots of shades of grey under the "asexual" banner.

I think "sex-repulsed" is such a load of crap under the asexual banner and why a lot of asexual people get such shit. It's either immature "ew sex is gross" people or people with actual disorders (like erotophobia, as mentioned elsewhere in this thread). The level of upset the OP has described is not a sexual orientation.

I don't like the term because a lot of the time I just don't think it's accurate.

I've had plenty of sex, but I don't like it. I don't think it's gross, and I'm not repulsed by it like the term implies. It just doesn't feel right to me, and not in an ashamed "sex is wrong" sort of way, but in the way I imagine a gay person would feel about having sex with someone of the opposite sex. I have absolutely nothing against it, I don't think it's bad or wrong, I think it's probably awesome for the people that like it, and I think whatever sexual things people want to do are fine, provided they're consensual and not hurting anyone. It's just not for me. Yet apparently I'm considered "sex-repulsed" because I don't want to do it and am not willing to just to satisfy a partner.

Um, no. That's just considered being asexual.

I agree that what OP is describing seems like more than just an aspect of being ace.

However, I disagree about sex-repulsion being BS, at least in some cases. I think it's perfectly reasonable for someone to be repulsed by having sexual contact with a person they're not attracted to. I mean, wouldn't you be repulsed (or at least have some amount of negative feeling) if you tried to fuck someone you were completely and utterly unattracted to?

Arousal should not feel that bad. That sounds like a physical or mental problem that OP needs to get checked out.

And where did you get your degree in armchair psychology?

The OP gave it to me when they decided to post on a forum asking for people's opinions. :D

If you don't mind me asking, what would you, as an asexual person, consider a normal response?

DA

I'm asexual. I don't get turned on by the thought of having sex with people, or people in general. I've never found someone sexually attractive. But I still feel what I assume is "normal" arousal. I masturbate. I orgasm. It feels good. It's just more about the sensation and a bodily function than about "having sex".

Does that make sense?

It does, but my understanding is that there are asexual people who don't feel any kind of arousal at all. I'm not sure whether I think that's...wrong. Unusual, maybe, sure.

I don't know. I think I may be operating in the space between wanting to respect someone and recognizing something as potentially being a problem.

As someone who considers themselves somewhere on the ace spectrum, to me it's more like, I find things attractive, I enjoy masturbation and orgasming, I just... don't want to touch someone else's bits or have them touch mine?

It's one of the reasons I hesitate to call myself asexual usually because people have defined it so rigidly (in my experience) that I feel like I'm doing it wrong.

I don't find the idea of sex gross or wrong or scary, it's just not something I feel interested in.

Which is frustrating because that is exactly what being asexual is. No interest in sex. It annoys me to no end that the internet has twisted it into this extreme versions, when it's pretty simple.

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