[ SECRET POST #3699 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3699 ⌋

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Comments

[diet_poison]

Don't you dare get all huffy that you think I think you're a bad person and then literally extrapolate my ENTIRE WORLDVIEW, fuck off with that noise. I made a remark because I thought you were being a jerk and hoped you would stop doing that, not because I take a great deal of pleasure in ~being unpleasant~. This conversation has actually really not been any fun at all. You just spent a couple paragraphs literally telling me what is in my head which is super patronizing and WAY more insulting than calling me a jerk AND way more insulting than me calling you a dick. Now I'm just straight up pissed. DON'T ever tell me what or how I am thinking.

As for the rest...I give up. This is just getting amazingly tiresome. Sexist jokes are not ok. There is no way to justify or explain away Trump's remarks about sexual assault and if you do, you're putting giving a massive shitstain (Trump) the benefit of the doubt over the comfort of every woman you interact with. You make a sexist joke or try to justify those remarks, and your intent doesn't really matter any more: you're being a jerk. There just isn't much more to say and I'm not going to stop thinking that about those things.

I would have been ready to give you the benefit of the doubt about the smugness but I cannot deal with the sexism.

[thewakokid]

"Don't you dare get all huffy that you think I think you're a bad person and then literally extrapolate my ENTIRE WORLDVIEW, fuck off with that noise. I made a remark because I thought you were being a jerk and hoped you would stop doing that, not because I take a great deal of pleasure in ~being unpleasant~."

Yeah, it's not fun when someone misinterprets what you're saying, then uses that to paint you in an unfair way. And if I am misunderstanding what you are doing when you repeatedly twist me words into things I didn't say, or when you try to claim what I said is coming from the same logical and emotional place - like you know my logical and emotional processes - as the moronic statement your trying to tie to me, please accept my apologies, and perhaps you'd like to take another go at why you keep doing this? Because it seems to me that you don't seem super interested in what I say or mean, and more interested in fighting me for things I didn't say or mean. Willing to be proved wrong on this, but, well you see how it's difficult to imagine how you could go from "The time you spent trying to make sure no-one can call you an asshole could be better spent by doing just about anything else" to "There's no point in trying to be polite because I might upset someone anyway" without a bit of misinterpretation and assuming my world view, as well as ignoring then previous statements I made to clarify the point, right?

ETA: But you know what, you may be right. Perhaps I am inferring more intent than is warranted. You have my apologise for that.

"then literally extrapolate my ENTIRE WORLDVIEW"

I'm... I'm really not sure I did all that. I mean, your argument, seems to be that you can call me names because I did something worse, and given that worse is a subjective value, from that I extrapolate that you think if you judge something to be worse, you are justified in being unpleasant to them? Like I'm not sure I'm making any leaps between what you actually said and that conclusion.

"I made a remark because I thought you were being a jerk and hoped you would stop doing that"

Well, here's the problem I didn't think I was being a jerk, and I didn't see the fact that it "annoyed" or "wasn't appreciated" by someone as a good enough reason to do anything. Like, I don't appreciate tomatoes, I don't see that whoever put them in my salad needs to know or care.

"This conversation has actually really not been any fun at all"

I know what you mean, but I'm in it now, gotta see it through.

"DON'T ever tell me what or how I am thinking"

RIGHT back attcha. I mean, the fact that this is the hill you're choosing to fight on, after this entire thread... wew lad.

"literally telling me what is in my head which is super patronizing"

Isn't it just, tho. I'm glad you recognise that. Now if you would do me the kindness of taking that insight, and focusing it on your comments to me... I mean, all the way through, but if you want to take a look at the comment that my last comment was responding to...

"literally telling me what is in my head which is ... WAY more insulting than calling me a jerk AND way more insulting than me calling you a dick"

Ok, I'm starting to see how your hierarchy of "X is worse than Y so Y is ok for me to do stacks up. Just to help me complete the picture, is a "sexist" joke better or worse than telling someone what is in their head?

"Sexist jokes are not ok"

Well, Im not sure I agree. It depends on the intent, the message, the target, whether or not it's funny. I mean, I wouldn't wanna be so black and white about.

"There is no way to justify or explain away Trump's remarks about sexual assault"

You're assuming his comments were definitely about sexual assault, that's the base assumption I am challenging here. Sure they could be, but I'm nut sure that's the only reading of them. I'm not saying people are wrong to make either assumption, I'm saying people may not be defending sexual assault if they have a different interpretation to you. If someone doesn't see it that way, trying to guilt them into changing their viewpoint of shutting up or whatever by telling them that they are "giving a massive shitstain (Trump) the benefit of the doubt over the comfort of every woman you interact with".

"the comfort of every woman you interact with"

I thought women were not the borg? You can speak for every woman now? The comfort of "every" woman didn't see to badly assaulted when all those women voted for Trump. I admit I'm being facetious here but really, you can't make a blanket statement about "the comfort of every woman you interact with"

"You make a sexist joke or try to justify those remarks, and your intent doesn't really matter any more"

I think that's what they call a "Thought terminating cliche" isn't it? Intent ALWAYS matters. Always matters to me, anyway. It's not like if someone says a series of magic words it turns off your reasoning brain and activates your attack protocols. It shouldn't be anyway. Intent always matters. Understanding intent is - rather than, say inferring intent - is one of the most important things in any human relationship to my eyes.

"I would have been ready to give you the benefit of the doubt about the smugness but I cannot deal with the sexism."

And I would have been willing to discuss the possibility of sexism in what I was saying if you hadn't repeatedly attacked me for what I wasn't saying. I mean, for the record, I'm of the opinion that jokes about sexism can be ok, and you seem to be of the opinion that jokes about sexism are never ok, so this discussion wouldn't have solved anything, but I guess we'll never know.