[ SECRET POST #3701 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3701 ⌋

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(BBC Sherlock)


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[Parks and Rec]


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(Shadowhunters, Malec)


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[Judith Martin (Miss Manners)]


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(British comedian Jayde Adams)


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[Regina Mills, Once Upon a Time]











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Comments

Patronizing/condescending attitudes

[(Anonymous)]

If there's one thing that makes me immediately dislike someone, it's a condescending attitude. I just don't see why people need to talk in a deliberately patronizing way. I mean, I can kind of understand the temptation to do it, but I know it won't help me make whatever point I'm trying to make, so I just don't do it. But other people seem to really love it. Like they applaud other people for doing it, as if it proved the condescending person right.

When you see a person acting like this, do you think it makes them or the person they're talking to look bad? Do you think it ever adds anything to an argument?

Re: Patronizing/condescending attitudes

[(Anonymous)]

IDK, some people have really bad attitudes. One thing being condescending does it keep people from fighting back and arguing with you...because you're putting them on the defensive, you don't want to take their thoughts and ideas seriously. So that says something major about the person using that kind of attitude to get their point across right there. It says a lot, actually.

Sometimes my brothers are like this. I'll just bow out of the conversation usually, rather than actually try to take apart what they're saying, implying. They just don't want to consider that they're actually wrong or being assholes, I think. They just want to be right and being condescending is a sort of "best defense is a good offense" move, IMO. It's nasty, though, and usually uncalled for.

I can be extremely sarcastic and angry sometimes, and may have started being slightly condescending about Trump supporters recently, though. It's been hard to channel my anger into better outlets. Really hard.

So in conclusion...angry people, people who don't respect another viewpoint, people who don't want to consider other viewpoints...and sometimes just plain jerks.

Re: Patronizing/condescending attitudes

[(Anonymous)]

That explains so much about Herpy.

Re: Patronizing/condescending attitudes

[sarillia]

I'm having a little trouble with the idea that making people defensive keeps them from arguing. In my experience people just argue even harder when they're on the defensive.

Re: Patronizing/condescending attitudes

[(Anonymous)]

You've never been pre-emptively shouted down or outnumbered? *shrug* IDK. It seems to happen a lot to some people...

Re: Patronizing/condescending attitudes

[(Anonymous)]

It kind of depends on the situation. Like it can be very satisfying to talk about people condescendingly rather than to them? Like "When I see people saying they just discovered *mild common kink* and they're so horrified, all I can think is 'poor sweet summer child... wait until you get to the knotting dicks and self-lubricating anuses.' "

But actually condescending directly to someone is annoying.

Re: Patronizing/condescending attitudes

[morieris]

I do it if the person seems beyond help, and only online.

Lot of dense people out there, and if you can't get through to them, patronize them.

Let me clarify, I don't mean people who genuinely want to understand and learn a concept, but just a few hours ago, I came across someone trying to defend that Milo person. Why waste time trying to get through to that?