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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2017-02-22 06:37 pm

[ SECRET POST #3703 ]


⌈ Secret Post #3703 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 01 pages, 14 secrets from Secret Submission Post #529.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

(Anonymous) 2017-02-23 12:23 am (UTC)(link)
Oh wow, okay. I didn't realize you were so determined to be judgmental about how other people fail to conduct their relationships to your standards, but you do you, I guess? :(
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[personal profile] kaijinscendre 2017-02-23 12:29 am (UTC)(link)
If OP did not want people commenting on it...why would they make a secret about it???

(Anonymous) 2017-02-23 12:42 am (UTC)(link)
Making a comment isn't the same thing as inviting people to judge you or tell you that you're not doing relationships in the correct way. I mean look, if you want to be judgy, be judgy. There's no need to be disingenuous and pretend that was OP's goal when you have no way of knowing that.
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[personal profile] kaijinscendre 2017-02-23 12:46 am (UTC)(link)
Okay, OP did not share a secret on a public site that talks about secrets so that the secret could be talked about.

It isn't like this site once had a huge blow up about huskies and anything silly like that.

(Anonymous) 2017-02-23 12:52 am (UTC)(link)
Your reasoning is pretty weak, though it's a very popular one. Trolls use it all the time to rationalize why it's okay to dogpile anyone who dares have anything public on the internet. After all, if a teenage girl posts a selfie on her instagram, she MUST be okay with bunches of people making fun of her appearance, right?

You might want to rethink that logic. Or again, maybe you don't, I don't know you very well. I hadn't mentally noted you down as a possible troll previously.
kaijinscendre: (gandalf sneering)

[personal profile] kaijinscendre 2017-02-23 01:03 am (UTC)(link)
This is some slippery slope BS. Do you think because I said something about an anonymous secret maker (who could very well just be lying on a secret to spark conversation), I am going to start attacking actual people?

Or that someone saying something about a completely anonymous secret put up on a forum made specifically for people to talk about those secrets is that same as going onto someone's personal blog and harassing them?

(Anonymous) 2017-02-23 01:18 am (UTC)(link)
By your own reasoning, you feel that OP sharing this on a public site means they're inviting negative comments on who they decide to date. Like I said, it's one thing to be a little catty about someone else's relationship decisions, but at least have the guts to own it. It's a bit silly to pretend like OP is definitely asking for you to tell them they're being stupid and expect anyone to buy that logic.
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[personal profile] kaijinscendre 2017-02-23 01:22 am (UTC)(link)
Okay? I own my comment of telling the OP this is a stupid reason to break up with someone.

Would you have been fine if I had told OP that this was a great reason to break up with someone?

(Anonymous) 2017-02-23 12:30 am (UTC)(link)
... ??? What. Like, by the very literal definition of making this secret, OP was opening this up to discussion and possible censure, though I don't think anyone's being overly cruel, just pointing out that not everyone has a relationship where both parties take an interest in all the same things, full stop, so they're being kind of unreasonable.

(Anonymous) 2017-02-23 12:43 am (UTC)(link)
kaijinscendre made sure that the very first comment on the secret was to tell the OP this was a stupid reason for breaking up. Not cruel, but hardly polite and nowhere near the civil discussion you're referring to.

(Anonymous) 2017-02-23 01:11 am (UTC)(link)
Well, in all fairness, if point blank, that IS a reason (and not an excuse or tipping point of patterned behaviour) it IS a pretty fucking stupid reason to break up with someone.

"HOW DARE YOU NOT TRY THIS CHOCOLATE CAKE THAT I ENJOY. I WANT A DIVORCE!"

(Anonymous) 2017-02-23 07:52 am (UTC)(link)
DA. You seem to have a real problem with kaijin, to the point of targeting them and accusing them of all kinds of things they didn't say/aren't going to do. Maybe look in the mirror a bit? And then admit it's a bit personal for you?