[ SECRET POST #3703 ]

[case]

⌈ Secret Post #3703 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

01.



__________________________________________________



02.


__________________________________________________



03.


__________________________________________________



04.


__________________________________________________



05.


__________________________________________________



06.



__________________________________________________



07.












Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 01 pages, 14 secrets from Secret Submission Post #529.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, because successful relationships aren't built on compromise and maybe sometimes doing something you're less than enthusiastic about because your partner IS, or anything.

[(Anonymous)]

THIS.

I can't believe how many people in this thread don't get this, or just don't agree with it. Like, this isn't some kind of power play where OP is just trying to make her(?) BF watch something he doesn't like just to prove she can. This is about OP wanting her BF to spend 42 minutes of his time sharing something she cares about with her. The fact that he's unwilling to do that is understandable bothering her.

[(Anonymous)]

Okay, but she knows he likes the movies, so why not just watch the movies together? And maybe there are other things they both like together?

I mean, honestly, I'd either feel bad (or feel annoyed) if I asked someone to watch something with me and they very clearly didn't want to and/or didn't enjoy it.

I don't think people are saying there shouldn't be compromise or effort, but is this really a die worthy hill?

[(Anonymous)]

Maybe this isn't the first time OP has done this. And BF had watched stuff before and not liked it. Maybe OP is constantly pushing fan stuff on her BF and he has finally stopped letting her push him around.

[(Anonymous)]

Maybe you're right. But I don't see why one would assume this, rather than giving OP the benefit of the doubt.

It must be something about what a person has experience more of in their own life.

[soldatsasha]

ia that relationships are all about compromise. But, you have no idea if that this isn't "some kind of power play." And you have no idea that this guy hasn't compromised or tried a dozen different things specifically because OP asked him to, and has decided to finally stand up for himself or something. There are two sides to every story, after all.

Personally ime this sounds exactly like some kind of bullshit power play. He won't watch Star Trek so I'm thinking of breaking up with him? That's nuts.

[(Anonymous)]

It is apparently an insane opinion on here to think that breaking up with someone because they won't watch a TV show is crazy.

[soldatsasha]

Haha, yeah, well... It's Fandom Secrets, after all.

I'm sure people here are super duper invested in their favorite fannish stuff, and I understand. I like sharing things I like with people I care about. But I'm not going to wreck a relationship because my bestie doesn't want to try CS:GO with me. Similar interests are important, identical interests are impossible.

[(Anonymous)]

I showed my best friend my favorite show once. We got about six episodes in before she admitted that she really wasn't enjoying it, and you know what? I was glad she said so because I didn't want her to feel like she had to sit through the entire thing if she wasn't having fun.

[(Anonymous)]

But your friend was willing to make the effort, is the point.

[(Anonymous)]

I would've been fine if she'd said she didn't want to even try it. We have lots of things in common outside of that, one TV show isn't a big deal and I honestly can't understand how or why it would be that much of a deal breaker if you otherwise get along well and share other interests.

[(Anonymous)]

But, you have no idea if that this isn't "some kind of power play." And you have no idea that this guy hasn't compromised or tried a dozen different things specifically because OP asked him to, and has decided to finally stand up for himself or something. There are two sides to every story, after all.

I agree. There are two sides. And I agree that I don't know for sure that this isn't some kind of power play. But why would I assume it was? I mean, at the very least, I'd say the odds that you're scenario is accurate are fifty-fifty even with the odds that it isn't, and that OP just wants to share a little bit of one of her favorite things with her BF.

So I choose to give OP the benefit of the doubt and you choose not to give OP the benefit of the doubt. We're both making assumptions based on incomplete information.

However, In my personal experience, "I don't understand your interests, find them silly, and therefore will not indulge you" is a lot more common reaction between people than "You did everything else right but you wouldn't share every one of my interests to I'm breaking up with you." The latter is, as you say, a bit nuts. Which is precisely why it seems less likely than the former, which I see all the time, and have experienced a few times myself.

[tree_and_leaf]

My husband refuses to watch Daredevil because he has got it into his head he doesn't like comic book adaptations. It's a shame - I'd enjoy watching it with him and I think he'd actually enjoy it, but he's not going to budge.

But, you know? I just watch it by myself, and I still enjoy myself.

[(Anonymous)]

I dont get how you don't get that wanting to break up over a fucking TV show is in no way shape or form rational. The one set in their ways and unable to take no for an answer or compromise is OP.

[(Anonymous)]

My OH knows there is no point asking me to go running with him because I just don't want to. He is making room for me, why is that wrong? Why is it me that's the one who HAS to try it? Married 32 years jsyk.