[ SECRET POST #3704 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3704 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Insert 'let people enjoy things' image here.

[(Anonymous)]

technically the secret is less about "enjoying things" and more about acting/directing/costuming choices? tbh seems like it could be criticized legitimately (perhaps without the bug-eyed weirdo comment)

OP

[(Anonymous)]

I'll admit to it having some of both. For the show, I think it was utterly unnecessary to switch the actress's eye color -- is the first thing we see when we think "Queen Victoria" are blue-grey eyes? If it's anything stylistic I'd say the hair was far more crucial and since they nailed that they should have left the actress' eyes alone.

IRL...well, I admit this crosses over into body horror for me. Sure, it's your body and if you want to, get your tongue split down the middle. But oh God, do I not want to see it. Obvious colored contacts are a squick for me in general (mostly because of how acutely aware it makes you of someone having something stuck on their eyeball at all times), but I generally don't say anything except maybe to ask if they are wearing colored contacts (very politely, like I would ask if someone's sweater was real cashmere) and hoping that shows them that if they are wearing them and trying to pass them off as real, they aren't fooling anyone.

I just don't like seeing obvious colored contacts and I think pretty much everyone looks best with the eyes they were born with (I knew a girl who once justified her fake grey eyes with "it's my father's color and I have his face shape so it fits better on me than my natural color", which no, she had beautiful brown eyes that looked wonderful against her skin instead of turning her sallow), and in the end, no, I can't and won't stop people from enjoying experimentation, but I'm not going to pretend I like it.

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[(Anonymous)]

The thing is, there really is no "very polite" way to ask someone if they're wearing colored contacts, especially since it's fairly obvious that you're doing it to make a point. You're free to make whatever unsolicited comments you'd like on someone's appearance, of course, but it's incredibly rude to do so, whether you're "calling them out" on wearing colored contacts, asking an woman if her hair color or texture is natural, commenting on someone's recent weight gain, or whatever your particular quirk may be.

Furthermore, some people just have oddly colored eyes. Genetics can be quirky that way. I suspect that one of these days you're going to end up criticizing someone for their actual eye color, if you haven't already.

Re: OP

[(Anonymous)]

How I ask people if they're wearing contacts:

Me: "I was just wondering, are you wearing colored contacts? Your eyes are amazing!"

Them: *Any possible answer from yes to no to one eye or no eyes or whatever*

Me: "Well they look really beautiful/cool!"

If commenting on someone's features with the express intent to compliment them no matter what I actually think is "shaming", I'd like to leave this planet.

Re: OP

[(Anonymous)]

Do you go up to older women who most likely dye their hair and ask them if their hair color is natural? Do you ask people if they've had plastic surgery "because their cheekbones are amazing?"

You're not being polite. You're being passive aggressive, and fairly obvious about it. Leaving the planet might be best.

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[(Anonymous)]

ayrt

Honestly I don't think it's nice to mention it in real life, then. It sounds pretty passive aggressive, you trying to make people uncomfortable because it makes you uncomfortable, and you want them to make different choices. Just stay away from them, maybe? You really don't improve the world by telling people how to change, or subtly trying to shame them for their looks (chosen or otherwise). That's my thought on the subject.

Re: OP

[(Anonymous)]

Wow man, like you think that would shame me into not wearing colored contacts? I know they don't look real if you know what colored lenses look like! But so the fuck what? I like how they look and that's why I wear them, I'm not trying to fool anyone!

Your discomfort makes me roll my eyes. I mean, I don't want you to feel grossed out or anything, but I can't stand the idea of trying to 'shame' someone for a fashion choice they made. To me, lenses are the same as shoes. Wear what you felt like fit for you that day!