[ SECRET POST #3743 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3743 ⌋

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Comments

[fscom]

07. http://i.imgur.com/kcIqU4v.png

[(Anonymous)]

I feel you, sweetie.

[wannabe_influential]

I don't mind cute nicknames that are derived from the person's real name, like say "Hannah Banana" or maybe "Jules" for names like Julia

But the really sickeningly sweet names are the ones that turn me off

Also, that is a VERY dapper dog, indeed! :D

[(Anonymous)]

I kind of like being called pet names, but I think it's because it's not very normal where I'm from. So whenever someone (non-condescendingly) calls me sweetheart or darling or something, I feel cute and loved. I realize I probably put more thought into it than they do.

[(Anonymous)]

To me, it's condescending in basically any context, and at best weird

I think even in ships, the only context where it works for me is one character using it specifically because the other gets comically annoyed by it

[wannabe_influential]

I do think examples like that are funny, too

[(Anonymous)]

Oh, yes, I do like it in those cases.

[nightscale]

I dislike pet-names irl and in fandom tbh, like there are so few characters I can actually see using them so unless it's canon that pet-names are a thing for a pair I don't really like it.

[(Anonymous)]

Pet names between people who are close (whether friends, relatives, or in a relationship) is a whole different thing compared to people calling strangers and casual acquaintances by a pet name.

[bur]

It depends. There are just some people who can get away with it, like this lady who I used to work with who called everyone "honey". EVERYONE. People in higher positions, people in lower positions, her kids, her horse, her dog was actually NAMED Honey...

The only one I really dislike in fandom is "dear". Not my dearest, or even my dear. Just "dear". I have no idea why.

[(Anonymous)]

"dear" always sounds really forced to me. It's also the word Bill Watterson used to avoid naming Calvin's parents.

[tree_and_leaf]

It's often a dialect thing. Like, where I live in Yorkshire, a lot of working class people call everyone they interact with who they don't actually and actively hate 'love'. It sees to basically mean 'you are a person I have no reason to be ill-disposed to.'

[(Anonymous)]

I'm 30, and I don't mind it if it comes from someone elderly, because they're my senior and it feels acceptable for them to address me with a diminutive. I also don't mind it from someone very Southern, because that's a regional/cultural thing. But otherwise it drives me nuts. I had a 19-year old call me "doll" the other day and I wanted to kick his teeth in.

[(Anonymous)]

+1, I work with a lot of elderly people and they can call me sweetie and darling all day if they like. But someone 20 years younger than me calling me "my dear" can go fuck themselves.

[(Anonymous)]

my guess would be that you consider pet names fairly intimate, and if someone uses one, it feels like they're presuming that level of relationship with you when they don't actually have it, but when you read it in fiction, it's a signal that the relationship is that intense. Both reactions make sense to me!

[(Anonymous)]

From strangers it sounds really demeaning. Loved ones, it's different. :)

[(Anonymous)]

That's okay, I hate the word "dapper". We all have our thing.

[(Anonymous)]

I love pet names in my close relationships and I loved them in fictional close relationships.

I don't love them from male supervisors. I hate them from female coworkers the same age as me or younger. Condescension from other women for arbitrary markers of "maturity" is a pet peeve of mine.

[(Anonymous)]

I hate them from female coworkers the same age as me or younger. Condescension from other women for arbitrary markers of "maturity" is a pet peeve of mine.

Wouldn't it be more likely to be condescending from an older co-worker? I mean, that's my experience. They call you honey and sweetie like they know everything and you just splattered out of a vagina yesterday.

[(Anonymous)]

In my experience it's not that much more likely?
And it doesn't bother me as much. It can be inappropriate, but if a woman is 5+ years older than me it's more likely to feel genuine and not condescending.

[(Anonymous)]

OMG THAT DOG <3

[making_excuses]

In English written fiction I find it nice, but I can totally relate to the real life thing! As I just accept it as a cultural thing when I go to the UK and someone calls me darlin' or love or whatnot. If it happened here, on the other hand, I would probably yell at them for being completely inappropriate. Heck, I feel weird when my mother calls me "her gold*" also my now ex and I only used Italian or English pet names because the Norwegian ones are few and far between. But strangers? No fucking way I would accept that from them, I am not a child!

*Sounds better in Norwegian, and is also a normal way for especially mothers to talk about their children in. Aka us kids are the most valuable things they "own"/Their treasure or whatever.