[ SECRET POST #3761 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3761 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

nayrt

The thing is that this happens so frequently and people are still shocked. Haven't people realized that being charming is not a sign that someone isn't abusive, that it is actually a hallmark classic of abusive people...to appear extremely charming and well-liked to outsiders. That is something they work on; they need the "street cred." It makes them feel good, and it gives them greater freedom to abuse their "loved ones." In some way, it probably also lets them excuse their behavior. "I'm a really nice person," etc.

[(Anonymous)]

I think the problem is as much as we know the world isn't black and white people still want to believe it is, so they don't want to believe someone they thought was a great person could be capable of abuse.

I also think if you personally know someone, and you never knew they were abusive and it's something that comes out it can be an incredible shock. I've never been on that side of things myself (abusers I've known were not the people I was attached to, they were the ones attacking my friends) but I could see where someone might have trouble with it.

I'd just hope no matter how shocked someone is, they wouldn't blame the victim or do anything to make the situation worse. I also think we really need more education about abuse so people can recognize the signs and really understand what abusers are like.

[(Anonymous)]

It doesn't help that being in an abusive relationship screws up your perspective on what's normal and what isn't. I have a friend who insists that her jerkwad controlling husband is fine because he doesn't hit her or their kids. Like sure, he's emotionally unavailable, selfish, doesn't lift a finger around the house and frequently belittles you, but he makes you laugh sometimes so it's all good, right? I don't get on her case about it because I want to be there for her if she needs it, but... I wish she'd realize that your partner doesn't have to be 100% pure asshole to be abusive.

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"Haven't people realized that being charming is not a sign that someone isn't abusive, that it is actually a hallmark classic of abusive people"

Whoa. That's a little too close to "loner? Must be a psycho/spree killer in waiting" attitude. Some charming people are genuinely nice.