[ SECRET POST #3771 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3771 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Secrets you don't feel like making

[(Anonymous)]

Not saying it is true for y'all but I did that before I worked through the internalized issues I had with being a woman and so very deeply resenting all the baggage that came with it. Reading about relationships that didn't remind me of the gender dynamics I experience daily were my escape.

Re: Secrets you don't feel like making

[(Anonymous)]

(ace anon from above)

There's almost certainly some of this involved for me. It's better than it used to be, I've accepted being a woman, I wouldn't want to be a man, but I definitely had some of what would now be called body dysphoria when I was younger: really, really didn't like my female body parts, not comfortable with being female, felt weird/gross about a lot of things related to being a woman.

(For me, I suspect it was less about being on the trans spectrum and more of a complication of being ace when I didn't know what that was, and growing up in a culture that very much says women are "for" sex. Anyway I've overcome a lot of that and grown into an appreciation of my body on the level of "this is where I live, it's not for anyone else," but reading about women used FOR sex (and it's a fine line easily crossed for me), still makes me really unhappy and uncomfortable a lot of the time.

I suspect there are power dynamics at play I don't like, as well as just the reminder of what it feels like to be seen mostly as a sexual object because of my gender.

So like you, there's the escape from real life gender stresses for me.

(That said I really enjoyed Georgette Heyer's work. It wasn't explicit ever, and the characters had such fully-fleshed out personalities and interesting dynamics with each other. It was never just one power dynamic or type of personality, and I loved that.)

Re: Secrets you don't feel like making

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other ace anon from above

I don't think it's true for me really. I've never had any issues with being a woman and never wanted to not be one. Of course, mileage varies for everyone but I personally don't feel any sort of baggage or weird gender dynamics. I mean, obviously I'm not denying that sexism exists, but luckily I don't feel like I experience it too often (definitely not daily).

There are all sorts of potential reasons why I like M/M better than other gender combinations (and I do tend to like M/F better than F/F...I have nothing against it, it just usually doesn't interest me that much although there are of course exceptions). I am heteroromantic though so I think it's probably not too different than (sexual) straight girls liking slash, just that for me it's more of an emotional thing than a sexual one.