[ SECRET POST #3796 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3796 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[The Shining]


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04. https://i.imgbox.com/wgIVTiyN.gif
[moving gif, Doctor Who]


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05.
[Forever]


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06.
[Buffy the Vampire Slayer]


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07.
[Mortal Kombat 2]





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08. [SPOILERS for Steven Universe]



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09. [SPOILERS for Criminal Minds]
http://i.imgur.com/itjb0jk.jpg
[linked at OP's request / Criminal Minds - Kat Adams played by Aubrey Plaza(top), Lindsey Vaughn played by Gia Mantegna (bottom)]


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10. [WARNING for rape]

















Notes:

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Comments

Re: Petty embarrassing friend shit

[(Anonymous)]

Ignoring all the signs that you guys have a super dysfunctional friendship dynamic, and just addressing this interaction:

You said "I don't know about Sunday," rather than "I'm busy Sunday." That leaves her wriggle room to pressure you into coming. If you want to resolve this without a fight, make up a reason that you 100% can't make it that is plausible, like that your brother really needs your help on Sunday with something and that's the only day you're both free. (The lie is because your friend isn't the type to take 'no' and nothing else for an answer.) Then stick to this story, but offer no more details.

HOWEVER, if you're sick of this shit and you're too upset to hold in your frustrations any longer, you could take a different tack. First reply with something civil: "I really can't make it Sunday, sorry. Is there a time on Saturday or Monday you can meet?" Then wait for the inevitable manipulative whine along the lines of "You don't care about me if you don't change your plans to come." When that happens, you get to drop the boundary bombshell: "I am not able to come on Aunday because I have prior plans. This does not mean I don't care about you. However, you implying that it does is upsetting to me. If you want to continue being friends with me you need to respect my decisions, as I respect yours."

Prepare for a long drawn out emotional conversation. She will either show herself to be capable of respecting you, or she will deflect and pin everything on you. You need to be prepared to react appropriately to either scenario, and if it's the former, to be on guard in case she regresses into your old dynamic.

Good luck!