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[Mary Elizabeth Winstead in Fargo, season 3 - linked/OP warned for nudity]

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04. [SPOILERS for Fargo]

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05. [WARNING for discussion of abortion]

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06. [WARNING for physical and psychological abuse]

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07. [WARNING for incest]

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08. [WARNING for dub con/non con]

[Jafar/Jasmine, Aladdin]

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Well, how far have you gone with him so far? Easier to give advice if we know what personal boundaries you want to exceed this time.

seconded.

We've never fooled around before. He lives out of state. I'm so fucking sick of being a virgin and I feel like he's my best shot at just fucking getting rid of that monicker.

And please don't tell me that I don't have to and that virginity is a social construct. I get it. Whatever. I just want to sleep with someone I trust to see if I like it and I want to have fun and feel wanted and attractive for once.

definitely bring lube. (and condoms, but I'm sure you know that.)

well, if it's your goal to shoot for the home run instead of second or third base, as it were, then I'd advise that you:

Make sure you are on the same page, first and foremost. If he doesn't feel like the time is right to go all the way, you'll have to negotiate what he is okay with doing. If he is down with doing the horizontal tango, then by all means proceed.

Like people are saying below, use protection, and lube would probably be a very good thing to have on hand. You don't know that you'll need it, but it's better to have it and not need it then find you do need it and not have any around.

Don't try to just jump into intercourse all at once. Take your time and get acquainted with each other's bodies. Start with hands, start slow. Make sure that both of you are comfortable with how things are progressing before you move ahead. Try getting mouths involved if you want, but don't feel like you have to do everything the same night. You've got your whole lives to practice and experiment and find out what you like.

Since it's your first time, take penetration slowly. Make sure you're slippery as an eel downstairs before you try putting anything in there (this is where the lube might come in handy if you happen to be one of those people who can sometimes have trouble getting as wet as they'd like.) Once he's in, take it slowly then as well. No jackhammers right off the bat. Get yourself used to how it feels before you try anything especially athletic. But if you feel like you're ready to really crank it up, try that too! It's all about how you two feel when you're actually in action.

Don't be alarmed or surprised if you're a bit sore the next day. Your body isn't used to sex and it might protest a bit---those tissues are delicate. The soreness will go away. Don't be alarmed either if you end up bleeding a little bit---this can happen sometimes if the opening of the vagina gets a little more roughly handled than it's used to. A little pain during initial penetration can be normal---nervousness about the new experience can cause you to unconsciously be a little tense. It shouldn't keep hurting for very long. If it does, you might be a little mismatched size-wise, or there may not be enough lubrication. Or the position or angle of penetration might need a little fixing.

Don't even try to have a simultaneous orgasm, lol. You'll only frustrate yourselves. Don't expect to come from intercourse, either---most women have a very hard time doing that and some can't (it all depends on the position of the clitoris.) My advice here is that you have him get you off right before you start going for full-on PIV, because that will not only be fun for you but will also help you get extra wet. But don't put too much pressure on either of you to orgasm. It's your first time---not everyone comes their first time, and too much pressure can make it harder to come. Just focus on each other and having fun!

Edited 2017-07-22 01:06 (UTC)

Omg, thank you!

While I agree with the last paragraph, I'd like to add that it's important to remember that clitoral stimulation is a *part* of sex and not a seperate chore that can only happen before or after penetration. I think at this point in the game, having him get you off first is not a bad idea, and definitely don't try to time your orgasm, but your pleasure and his pleasure are not two seperate endeavors that cannot overlap. You can touch your clit during penetration. He can touch your clit during penetration. Also, even if you can't orgasm, from penetration alone (and I think the statistic is more than half of women can't - including me) penetration can still be very pleasurable (eventually, if not initially) so enjoy the sensations of that, too - it's not only for him!

What they said! And yes - there is *nothing* wrong with you reaching down (probably easier if he's balancing over you) or him reaching up or around or whatever and touching your clit/around your clit however feels good and gets you off. Because while orgasm with clitoral stimulation alone is great, paired with the right penetration, it can be *really* great. Definitely something you should experience at some point.

Literally nothing changes after losing it. The moniker doesn't seem like anything like a big deal once it's gone.

If you want to fuck because you want to fuck, good stuff, go with God. But if you want to fuck because you want to be different, maybe think twice.

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