[ SECRET POST #3884 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3884 ⌋

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[(Anonymous)]

Speaking for myself, yeah. As long as everyone's of legal age either way, I don't really care.

[(Anonymous)]

It's not the legality of it that's the issue. Maybe men and women are wired differently in this respect, but speaking for myself, I was never turned off so fast as when I realised the cute guy I was having a drink with was an infant when I was 20.

[(Anonymous)]

As long as you don't think you're speaking for all women.

[(Anonymous)]

Did I say I was? No, I did not.

[(Anonymous)]

Maybe men and women are wired differently in this respect

[(Anonymous)]

Statistically speaking, she's right though. Statistically, the age heterosexual men find most attractive fluctuates very little in relation to their own age. Whereas, statistically speaking, the age heterosexual women find most attractive fluctuates a LOT in relation to their own age.

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT

Oh, yeah, I absolutely get that, too. That can be a very tough mental block to shake. And that sort of age gap can make it harder in terms of compatibility for some people as well, because it can lead to generational differences in terms of interests and reference points and whatnot. There's definitely plenty of other valid reasons why some people struggle with age gaps when it comes to who they're attracted to/want to date that are worth considering.

Just simply saying that whether it's an older man/younger woman or older woman/younger man, if they're both adults, then I don't see the problem in the mere attraction (or interest in dating( they'd have towards each other in and of itself, is all.

[(Anonymous)]

No they are not "wired differently", Gender essentialist BS.

[(Anonymous)]

But anon, she has a feel, so obviously all women must have the same feel. That's how gender works, right?

[(Anonymous)]

Whether its a biological imperative or socialization, on average, yes, we really are "wired" differently.

http://jezebel.com/mens-favorite-ages-are-20-21-22-and-23-a-data-dive-1731660984

[(Anonymous)]

Doesn't the phrase "wired differently" perforce imply a biological difference? That's how I've always seen it used in the past.

And I have no problem with the idea that men and women might think and behave differently in certain contexts, but a huge problem with arbitrarily deciding that the reason they behave differently is due to innate biological differences.

[(Anonymous)]

Ok, fair enough. But I think it's very unlikely that socialization on its own accounts for men's statistical preference for 20 to 23-year-olds. It seems very likely that at least some of that preference is down to biology.

I myself wouldn't tend to use the term "wired differently" because I think it places too much weight on the side of biological imperative and not enough on the side of socialization. But to some extent, biology almost certainly plays a part, and to that extent, I don't think it's actually wrong to use a term like "wired differently."

[(Anonymous)]

Why do you find it so unlikely that socialization is the main factor here? People might claim that their preferences come down to a biology, but people have always justified sexism using bogus biology claims.