[ SECRET POST #3940 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3940 ⌋

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Comments

Re: SMH at rude people.

[(Anonymous)]

Look, this thing we're all talking about wouldn't really do much for me either. But it's honestly like you're responding to a comment you've imagined in your head and not to what AYRT actually said.

I do think it's "rudeness" to be angry and offended at people who don't accept a total stranger's anonymous, random, no-knowledge-of-the-situation "I LOVE YOU" with enough gratitude for your tastes

Nowhere in AYRT's comment do they say, "If you're not grateful I'm angry and offended!" What they said was, and I quote, "Calling it condescending shit because it didn't help you is unnecessary and cruel." I've got to agree with that; I think most people would. They didn't have a problem with the fact that some people were saying it wouldn't work for them. Their issue was with the people were choosing to shit on this person's harmless (if ineffective for some) attempt to help those who were suffering the same horrible thing they suffered.

Re: SMH at rude people.

[(Anonymous)]

That's my point, though. I think they're perfectly in their rights to be cruel and react emotionally to something that hurt them by reminding them that lots of people who claim to care, don't really. As I mentioned, this is one of the unintentional effects of writing a screed like this and it's unrealistic to ignore that part.

Messages like these can help people. Messages like these can hurt people too, by adding to the ever growing library of rote, trite messages of support from people who aren't really offering support other than "good thoughts." It's not the intention but it happens. When it happens, I can't blame them for being cruel in return to something that hurt them. To say "such a negative reaction is unnecessary" is denying the negative impact these messages can cause or saying they don't matter.

Which puts across the exact opposite message of what they want to say.

Re: SMH at rude people.

[(Anonymous)]

>Calling it condescending shit because it didn't help you is unnecessary and cruel

Yeah uh like, this is basically going 'hey person who's hurting and suffering and not feeling good about themselves, do you know what you are for not being grateful for my platitudes? UNNECESSARY AND CRUEL, that's what'.

Like, I get it! This was not the intention. The original poster may have been hurt by the response. But what you do here if you actually mean it, is reach out and try to see why people feel that way and have a bit of consideration for them, not lash out in turn and basically undo any goodwill that might've originally been there in the first place.

Platitudes aren't actually harmless. This entire thread kinda proves that.

Re: SMH at rude people.

[(Anonymous)]

+1