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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2017-10-17 06:42 pm

[ SECRET POST #3940 ]


⌈ Secret Post #3940 ⌋

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Re: SMH at rude people.

(Anonymous) 2017-10-18 04:13 am (UTC)(link)
anon that was being replied to - yeah, that's about it. Like wow lol the change in tone from 'you are loved and valued' to 'you're SELFISH AND HOSTILE AND DONT CARE ABOUT ANYONE U TERRIBLE PERSON' is vaguely funny.

I'm not sure if OP or other repliers get it but, generally for people who are depressed, many tend to view themselves as depressing useless wastes of spaces that don't really deserve anything and would make everyone's lives better if they just sort of didn't exist. As a result of that, it's not uncommon to lash out or be hostile.

When that kind of behavior is met with people going all 'gosh well I guess NOT YOU, you're an asshole who deserves to be depressed due to your own selfish nature' then it kind of... just reinforces that self image, pretty much.

Like the funny thing is I'm not even generally against affirming messages. But they have to be meaningful, and also followed with genuine action and empathy. Not 'if you didn't appreciate it then you're a mean selfish prick', because that doesn't just undo the initial sentiments but makes the whole situation even more miserable for all involved parties.